How to leave a long term, over-emotional relationship? Plz help?

You are not responsible for another's behavior, nor their well being.

Give him the phone number to the local suicide hotline, call his parents or other family, and tell him to get out. End all contact. No calls, emails, texts, etc. Make it definitive and don't be wishy washy.

Remaining in a dysfunctional situation will not help him nor you.

If you are concerned about your own safety, arrange to be out of town or stay with friends for a few nights. If he stalks you, document it and go to the police. Request a protection from abuse order. CHANGE YOUR LOCKS.

Every step be stern and remain firm. Otherwise, it will drag out much longer then it needs to.

You have to recognize that you cannot save him (bf). He has emotional needs that you cannot help him with, most likely esteem issues. What worries me is that you are putting your life on hold for this guy and he has come to recognize how easy it is to manipulate you by having a "breakdown". It sounds as if you need help with this, so if your roomie or another close friend could help you with it, you should directly address with him that you are no longer going to be the personal responsible for him. He will probably pout, cry, threaten to kill himself, etc., but you NOT caving in will show him that it will not help. Think of it as having a child...what do you think happens to the child that has a hissy-fit everytime he is denied that candy bar or toy, but the parent gives in every time? That's right - the parent is then "trained" by the child. It's time for you to be happy now, and cut the cord. It won't be easy, but you can do it. Just don't try to do it alone, get a source of support to help you with it.

Good luck sweetie!

Sit down and have a heart to hear ttalk with him. He is using suicide as a means of making you not be free and make choices and also as a decoy to stay put where he lives. You have to get very firm but kind with him and you yourself might have to move out and find a new roomate if he doesnt go himself..

ask Deirdre in the sun newspaper, id say u have to tell him once and for all, because it takes 2 2 make a relationship work, and u shouldnt stay with somebody for the wrong reasons, but if you believe he might commit suicide, and you generally are worried dont listen to people on here seek help proffesionally because you want to make the right choice, although alot of people say they will commit suicide as a u cant leave me kind of method i dont no how to explain it properly. but hope my advice helps

tell him that what ever he does to himself you will do to yourself (dont actually do it though just scare him) maybe he will back off