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Allison D asked in HealthMental Health · 1 decade ago

Is my boyfriend addicted to pills?

The thing is: He is a good guy, he takes care of me and our two children, he works, he is generally stable, but he has been lying to me and hiding prescription pain pills from me. He doesn't have a script, but gets them from his friends and his mom. He said he doesn't just take them for pain but when he is stressed or when he has to get up early. Am I justified for being concerned about this or should I just let him be since he is a good father and provider? Should I leave him alone about it? When I ask him questions he tends to get defensive because he says I am judging him, though I am trying to avoid judging him. I am just worried that he is/will get addicted.

Update:

Thank you Tara for your very helpful answer. I found a bottle he was hiding from me and identified them as hydrocodene or vicodin. I wanted to know what they were before I confronted him about it. I found this bottle after I had asked him to let me know when he is going to take a pill.

He has good insurance and I have already told him that if he is in "that much pain" that he needs pills then he should talk to his doctor about it, but his excuse was that he uses them for stress to. I guess I should be more adamant that he sees a doctor about it.

His answer to how often he takes it was "whenever he needs to", but since he fessed up about a week ago to me, I have been paying attention and he has been taking them everyday. I asked him if tomorrow he would not take a pill (it's my birthday) and he said "eugh" and then finally "FINE" and that he didn't want to hear anymore about it...

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  • Anonymous
    1 decade ago
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    Yes, you are most certainly justified for being concerned. Try to find out what medication it is so you can learn about the addiction potential. You can use the imprints on the medication and the link below to identify the pills. I understand that you may not have access to the pills in which case you might just try to ask him what they are.

    Most prescription pain pills have a strong potential for tolerance and abuse. If he is taking them without a prescription and takes them for stress relief, then he is already abusing them. There are better medications and methods of relieving stress. It's hard to say whether or not he's addicted as this depends on the frequency he takes them. If it's on an occasional basis (such as once a week), then most wouldn't consider him to be addicted. If it's daily, then he is possibly addicted.

    If he has insurance then he should see a doctor as a doctor will readily help him. If he doesn't have insurance, then althrough illegal, this is probably the most cost effective way for him to deal with his stress which is why he's doing this.

    I wouldn't leave him alone about it because most prescription pain killers are controlled substances and if he were to get caught he could go to jail. Depending on how often he takes them, he could also quickly develop a tolerance and dependence and without a prescription, that's not a good position to be in should his supply run out.

    I wish I had the magic words but I don't. :( I think the best thing to do is talk to him, express your concerns, and try to show understanding. Even if he is not ready to change yet, if you can at least instill a desire in him to change then you're on the right path. If not, then I think your only other options are to turn the other way or else leave him, but leaving him doesn't sound like the best option for any of you.

    Best wishes <3

  • 5 years ago

    My boyfriend does the same thing. He takes advil everyday no less than 6 at a time. He says he has headaches and it comes from his neck. I always tell him its bad for his liver ect but he doesnt care. Im not sure if my bf really has medical problems since he didnt got the drs but its sounds a lot like your bf. Advil is not addicting like prescibed painkillers as your body wont have withdrawls or you brain doesnt need it. But it may be a habbit and he thinks he needs it but he doesnt. Its kind of like weed, its not addicting liek meth or heroin but people still crave it and say they cant stop when they really can. Its not a huge problem but just yell him you are concerned about it and wich he wouldnt do it or find different methods if he has a headache. And you just worried. But if you have a bf that will get offensive and so on then you should just let it go unless you really think he has a big problem. But taking advil alone is not pill popping. Mixing it with 4 or 5 other pills is. Have him take an asprin a day since it is good for your heart. And for the compulsive lying, maybe he should get help because that is not a healthy realtionship for you. Im not trying to be mean to you or your bf im just saying. Because they can never stop. Good Luck!!

  • 1 decade ago

    Good people get addicted to things too. Not judging him is a great idea and when you confront him about his addiction do it lovingly and reassure him that he is a good provider. I would suggest you both join a church and get married so you can say husband on here. Also by joining a good christian church both of you will have a much greater feeling of self worth. Of course Im a member of the Church of Jesus Christ L.D.S. and we feel the family is the most important earthly thing we can have and any addiction can adversely affect the family. Check out mormon.org

  • Anonymous
    1 decade ago

    If he's obtaining them illegally, hiding the fact that he uses, and lying when confronted, he's already addicted. How far his addiction will go, who knows? But odds are that he'll stay a good person. He'll just be less capable of doing all of the great things you like about him now.

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  • Anonymous
    1 decade ago

    I used vicodin, addictively, and that sounds like how I used it. The best thing for friends and family members of an addict or alcoholic is AL-Anon. You didn't cause his problem, can't control it, and can't cure it. But you can take care of yourself and that's what Al-Anon is about.

  • 1 decade ago

    if what you say is true, then yes. it is not normal to get pilss from a friend and his mom. they are not doctors, they cannot tell your bf what he is doing is dangerous or not to his body. that's why they can't do that. if they got caught, doing so is a felony.

    it is not healthy to take those types of pills for extended periods of time and taking such pills will only lessen their effectiveness. not to mention his reasoning for taking them is not healthy.

  • Anonymous
    1 decade ago

    You need to ask HIM this. If he's hiding things and lying to you, then he is almost certainly already addicted.

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