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The Doctor told my son's dad he has only 5 years to live....?
Ok, So my son's dad (We've parted 5yrs ago) was told by his doc that he only has five years to live, due to his Hep-C... I think he's had the Hep C for over ten years now, but he is an alcoholic (I hate to say that but it's true) and doesn't take meds for it. I've been reading articles on Hep C and finding things out but still usure of everything.
I feel bad for him, yet I feel worse for my son... because what if it's true that he only has five years, What if really does have only five years or less with the way he drinks, I never imagined my baby not having his father around. I know Docs can't really put a time on how long a person will live. Just what if, The sad part is that he won't listern to anybody, he gets so defensive that no one will bring it up to him, even when they include his son.... Jeez what am I 2 do....???
I understand "I" Can't do anything about or for him... I let my son spend as much time as possible with his father, yet the dad is always drunk.... AND I worry my a** off when my son is around his father while he's intoxicated.... What if the man just loses my dang mind and goes crazy, my son will be in the middle of all the choas.... I don't want to put my son in that situation.
4 Answers
- 1 decade ago
If you look on the outside of the box. So you have a ex that is a heavy drinker, Has hep-C and you want your son to be around him more? Seems that this will truely teach your son things not to do. We all seem to learn from fear more then anything. Things we really remember were from fear or heartache. The thing is to keep explaining to your son how bad alchohol is. It sounds like he wont make it for 5 yrs because of his attitude and not trying to make it any better. Most people will stop thier addiction from something horrible happening to them where they get hurt exstreamly bad and the pain is beyond anything they ever experieced. Sad to say that might not happen to his dad for him to see the light...But really telling your son repeatedly that loving your dad while he is here is ok just remember why he is leaving us and never follow in those footsteps. Ask what things he feels are good about his dad and go with those things. I truely dont think its just the one thing but everything put together. The dad doesnt seem to relize how bad it can become and the pain and sorrow he will cause others and himself when he gets worse. All you can do is to say positive things to your son and repeatedly say the things that are wrong that his dad wont change. Honesty and reality is best. You dont want to sugar coat this or he my blame you for not telling him the details. Kidneys seems to be the biggest factor here. check that out with drinking and Hep-C put together. Your son will want to do something to help so he wont feel so depressed. making things for him maybe one way. Remember children will go through the denial, anger, blame and then finally see the outcome. This is normal and alot to go through for the both of you. A good few sections from a couselor maybe your best bet so you can decribe your feelings and your sons.
Hope this helps! Stay strong!
- ♥ liz ♥Lv 61 decade ago
You can not do anything.Just let him spend as much time as he likes with his dad.Make memories that will last your son his lifetime.Do not sit around and count down the years.No one knows how long we have from day to day.
- thresherLv 71 decade ago
Your sons Dad needs to come to grips with both his diseases.If he wants to die then it's his decision.
- Anonymous1 decade ago
Hurry get him on life support
