Did he get addicted again to phone sex?

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My boyfriend of 9 months asked me to have phone sex with him after the first month that we were together. I told him that I don't do phone sex or have actual sex. Never have and I won't have sex till marriage. He told me that he was fine with and everyting and didn't ask about it at all no more. Then just Tuesday of this week I was half asleep and really horny so some how along that way I ended up having phone sex with him and liked it. But after that I keep finding him trying to get me to fall asleep or get tired so we will do it again. He told me in his past that he had phone sex with over 10 girls before. I know for a fact that he isn't lying to me, trust me I wish he was. Just last night he convinced me to have phone sex again with him and have had phone sex 6 times already and it has only been 3 days! I think that he is addicted again. How do I get him to be like his old self again? I mean I am glad that I did it with him just because he seems more himself around me now and shows that he loves me more. Can someone tell me of what not to do when I am on the phone with him? The thing that I thinks that gets him is when I talk all slow when I am about to fall asleep. After I do that voice he just goes crazy and tells me that he wants me.

Anonymous · Accepted Answer

dont take away his medicine  would you rather have him call other girls?

pluvialis_sitio · Answer

You are in a very difficultt situation, and I do not think it will get any better or any easier.
There are a few things you should be thinking about.  Why do you personally want to wait to have sex until you are married?  Do you intend to marry this man?  What do you think he will be like after you are married?
It sounds like this man "needs" sex because he has not learned tocontroll his sexual desires.  He feels more comfortable around you after the release because he is able to get his mind of sex for a while.  This is a classic sign that he is addicted to sex or sexual activity.
I would suggest proceeding with extreme caution.  If you are not comfortable with the phone sex, don't do it, and do not let him push you into anything else you are not comfortable with.  If talking to him when you are tired makes him aroused, do not talk to him when you are tired.
If you are thinking of marriage, get some serious marriage counseling first, and do not let up on the sexual behavior in counseling.  It will be moredifficultt after marriage - trust me on this one.  Most marriages do not survive sexual addiction, and the heart ache is so sever for the woman.  Just remember that this is not your fault, there is not any thing wrong with you.

Harry T · Answer

No I don't think he got addicted again, I just think he never got un-addicted to it.  If a guy really likes something, he won't give it up easily.  If he has had phone sex with all these girls as you say, how many has he had real sex with I am sure it is several too.  If I were you I'd be careful about this guy.  And yes I am a guy speaking, I too like phone sex, but not as much as the real thing my dear.  So please be careful and stay safe.  PS I admire you for your morals and desire to not have sex until you are married, don't weaken.

SaTAnS_REjEcT · Answer

Well I say you stop feeding the need. Tell him that you don't feel comfortable doing it all the time and you would prefer he stop trying to make you before you go to sleep. I also suggest you stop talking to him until you fall asleep. That just triggers his imagination. And if you do this, it may cause him to look somewhere else for that satisfaction. (i.e. internet porn, 900 numbers, other girls). I don't think you want this but if you are not giving him real sex, this is the safest and best option otherwise.So you shouldn't completely cut him off. Good luck

Anonymous · Answer

In todays society it must be really difficult to go 9 months with someone and not have sex. The poor guy obviously really fancies you and sees this as a way of getting close to you and fulfilling both of your sexual needs. I don't really see what you can do about it. You are really lucky that he has stayed with you or not cheated. I respect your decision not to have sex until marriage but he is a guy and needs some outlet for the sexual tension somewhere.

tee · Answer

Because you don't have actual sex your boyfriend need some kind of affection from you and that's whats he get from having phone sex with you. It cant be that bad because tou said you enjoyed it before. I think your boyfriend really likes you and Just wants to talk and be with you. if you are really tired of having phone sex with him Just tell him that it makes you uncomfortable sometimes and Just tell him that you love jim but he need to change.

? · Answer

Throw out the porn and see if things return to normal. If that doesn't do it go see a doctor. There are medications that reduce sex drive, although I don't know whether that is appropriate. Tell your wife your plan and ask for her support. Good luck.

Shogun · Answer

Phone sex is a fetish, and he has it.  In reality sexual fetishes are very common.  The issue is whether this fetish rules his life.  If it's something he just does with you, then it is under control and relationship oriented.  If he's calling 900 numbers and other women then you have a problem.

Anonymous · Answer

Whats phone sex?

~o0o~ · Answer

most guys do get horny to hear the sleepy voice of their angels. so if you want to avoid having phone sex with him always, refrain talking to him on the phone when you are feeling to sleep. or perhaps change the topic right away.

Anonymous · Answer

Well yeah he is addicted to phone sex!

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