Friendship help!!!! Please answer!?

Oh boy... I can relate to that. Why don't you try talking to your friend about it, explaining to her that you don't feel any different then you already do about her whether or not she has something you don't. And how it's not a competition and it's okay to feel jealous once in a while, and that she should tell you whenever she does and how posing doesn't impress you, and to be honest and that's what will impress you.

And for the pregnancy problem..

Try making sure one more time and help her in anyway you can. Even supporting her is the least. Try getting some help from a teacher or another adult you can trust. Talk through it with her and try to feel sympathy for her. And try talk to her about adoption and/or an abortion if she can't take care the baby. Or even ask her grandparents or uncles/aunts if they can take care of it. But if she thinks she can, help her take care of it. Show her you care. I hope I helped the least bit..

Its really sad that's she's pregnant at the age of 12, kids your age shouldn't be having sex let alone getting pregnant. On the lying thing, she is immature and is trying to get attention, one way to fix your friendship is to catch her in her lies, if she says she has an ipod touch, ask her to bring it to school so you could see her awesome ipod, if she said she has a boyfriend ask to meet him. Once your friend understands that you will continue to do this the lying will become less common and in time stop all together.

Well, that's just some folks' personality. They feel like they have to top everything anyone around them does in order to matter. It could be a matter of insecurity and for some it's just second nature, like they HAVE to be "superior" to anyone around them. She may not even realize she does it, so you and your other friends could probably sit her down and talk to her. Let her know how you guys feel and that you really don't want anything to happen to your friendship OR to her. The whole sex at 12 thing may have come around cause she wanted to be the first of her friends to say she did it, and she ended up pregnant. Worse things can happen if she keeps up the same path. Talk to your friend, and be her friend.

Friendship is like a needle of a clock. Though we r in the same clock, we r not able to meet. Even if we meet, it’s only for a few seconds. But we always stay connected. I believe this is what true friendship is............ A lover will usually tell u That I will be with u in all u’r troubles. A real friend forever will say that U will never have troubles when I’m with u

dont be friends with her if she just makes up nothing but lies what is that good for lying wont get her anywhere in life. a girl who thinks shes all cool like that shes not. i have the same problem with this 11 or 12 year old down the street but shes worse she goes around school saying im a fat whore and all this crap that isnt true!!! it aggervates me! and all of my friends just tell her off say something like you need to get a life if you wanna be my friend then you need to stop making up these stupid lies your always trying to be better than me in everything i hate. y would you lie about going out with someone especialy saying you ve had sex with a guy tht your like worst enemies with !!! thts pathetic your 12 have you ever heard of true love waits apparently not and if you r pregnant and ______ says hes never even has had sex with you let alone go out with you. i dont know if we can be friends, i cant be friends with a lier.

best of luck

Your friend seems to be going through an insecure time. If she needs to outdo you constantly, she is jealous of you, or others, and feels the need to show off. You have two options.

You can dump her and move on, or if you really care about her, you can talk to her about how you feel. Confess how you're feeling and try to get to the bottom of the issue. Try to figure out why she's acting this way, and how you can help her feel better about herself. (though if you call her insecure or jealous, you'll be in for trouble--try to be discrete about helping her) Hopefully, if she is your true friend, she will get over whatever is bothering her. Or she can totally blow your help out of proportion, and hate you even more. If so, then you have the first option to fall back on. That's only worst case scenario, though.

Tell her you don't want to hang out with her if she keeps lying. i told my friend this because she kept doing things that annoyed me, and she turned out to be a screw up who dropped out of high school. I was glad i didn't hang out with her. If she is pregnant at twelve she should get an abortion, although i don't believe they should be first choice, I think a twelve year old is in no condition to deliver/care for a baby. If she objects ask her if she would rather have a possibly deformed or troubled baby in an unhealthy environment, or if she wants to wait a while before she finds the perfect man and she has proper prep for a baby to come along. Hope this helps you choose a path.

I think that she is moving too fast and as a friend I think you should try to slow her down. For one reason or another, she feels like she has to be doing better than you and your friends which might be a sign that she may not be getting attention at home. Especially, if she is 12, pregnant and her mother is fine with it. Try to sit her down and get her too open up about how she really feels. There is no reason to try to grow up faster, trust me being grown is not as fun as your friend may think. Good Luck! I hope I helped!

Wow, That stinks. Well I guess what you ought to do depends on your definition of friend. I don't know if you've already talked with her about it, but it seems like she has a self esteem issue. She might be a little jealous of you and your other friends, or she might be hungry for attention. Maybe her parents don't pay enough attention to her. It's important to remember that it's not necessarily her fault, but you need to communicate with her how it makes you feel. I know that sounds really stupid, but if she understands how you feel and you understand how she feels maybe you both can come to a resolution about her apparent issue

It sounds to me like your friend lacks responsible parenting or at least a healthy relationship with her parents because if their relationship was functional, her actions would not be so dysfunctional. She is lying to improve others' image of her so that her image of herself will improve. If her parents were responsible, they would have a daughter that doesn't need affirmation from others to increase her self-esteem.

I can't explain why dysfunctional people insist on reproducing, but it's one reason I've opted to die without bringing children into this world. Studies have shown that poverty breeds ignorance, which cycles back into feeding poverty while educated individuals tend to either wait until much later in life to have children (because they have learned what it really takes to raise a family and the problems introduced by an uneducated society) if at all.

Your friend's mental capacity may be frozen at her present age for the rest of her life. I would be most concerned at what her actions would be later in life when she wants to go out, have friends and live life, but she won't be able to because she'll have to work to support her family. It's hard enough to survive as an individual and having a family complicates matters, particularly when monetary affluence is scarce. If your friend's mom is okay with her baby having a baby - she will love it when your friend moves out and leaves the baby behind to live her life.

The materialistic aspect of your relationship is shallow. Don't be so egotistical about what you have; you are obviously making your 'friend' jealous and you aren't being a friend by bragging to her about what you have and she doesn't; just stop it. Be a part of your friend's life offering to help her succeed in life. Brainstorm ideas for starting your own business as entrepreneurs and yes it's possible; there are a couple 12-year old millionaires out there. One girl enjoyed creating graphic designs for her friends' MySpace profile (backgrounds, etc.) and she put up a website that generated income (AdSense, etc.) through pay-per-click advertising. Focus on meeting your customers' wants and needs in a sustainable manner that helps make the world a better place.

If you can't sustain your friendship with your friend because she is to insecure for you; don't let her bring you down - end your friendship with her and focus on improving the quality of your own life; you have plenty of your own life and future to be concerned with.

The Mayan indians created a calendar that ends on December 21, 2012. While some people believe that the world will suffer cataclysmic catastrophe, I understand that this is an opportunity for the world population to change its consciousness from an ignorant, ego-driven, currency-fueled manner of thinking to a more productive, selfless, generosity-driven mind-track that has evolved beyond the ways of old. The Venus Project aims to use modern technology to assist mankind in living sustainably and effortlessly so that we can focus on improving our relationships with each other and harmonizing with the earth; failure to evolve in this manner is what may result in the ending of mankind as a species.