VIRGINITY PROBLEMS ANY SUGGESTIONS?

I dont know why people are being stupid about it 'ie .. its not normal'

ofcourse its normal.

Honestly dont worry. it will happen when it happens :)

Try to create a 'mood' that way it might turn you on and your partner and stuff and things could just flow..

The more you worry about it, the more tense youll get.

i think your just worried cuz your 22 but thats normal.

:)

Ahh, there is too much emphasis on sex. People don't think about relationships enough. A realtionship with a girl should start the same way as with a boy:- through friendship!! Talking, doing stuff together, hanging out, then later comes the physcial side of the relationship. Sex is the icing on the cake:- it makes the whole thing great, but eat only icing and you get sick. You gotta work on the other things that make up the sponge and jam layer :-) Ok, enough of the metaphors already. I'm 19, and I'm a virgin. People respect it, because I'm choosing to wait. I'm not embarrassed about it, I'm waiting for marriage to the right person. I'll still be a virgin at 20. That's in a few months... I think you'd be suprised how many people are still virgins at 20. If you've made it this far, you should wait until you do find someone special. Sex is special, so don't throw it away. Good Luck!

Hey girl, listen to me. I'm 21 years old and I didn't lose my virginity until I was almost 20 years old. There is nothing wrong with it. I know how you feel completely about being nervous and tensed up before you have sex. It might seriously just be because you are 100% not ready. Seriously wait it out. There is nothing wrong with you. Don't have anyone tell you differently. (Especially a guy) :) If you feel like your boyfriend is pushing you into it eventually, talk to him and tell him that you are just not ready and it is not because you love him or care about him anyless. You shouldn't be as nervous as you are unless you truly love the person you are wiith. No lie! Take care girl and good luck :)

-L

The object is to relax and let it happen naturally. Look at why you are tensing up. Does it happen at the same point every time or when he touches you in a certain way?

Are you aroused by him? Are you able to bring yourself to orgasm? Do you like your body? His? Are you afraid of the pain? Have you been abused?

All of these could point to where the problem lies.

It could also just be that you are putting yourself under too much pressure. Take it easy and work up to it from cuddling, to stroking, to oral sex and then see.

Reverend Willy

take it really slow, there's no rush. you should try to feel comfortable doing, try to relax and not feel tensed up at all.

maybe you could try just masturbating each other... then when you feel comfortable doing that you could move onto sex the next time.

if it's just a problem of physical tightness... get him to start out by just using a finger. take things very slowly until you feel comfortable with it, then he could try two fingers. you might just need some time to allow yourself to physically relax until the point where things will work.

don't get frustrated, everything will be fine eventually. just let things happen and it'll turn out ok

You probably get tense cause you're nervous and not ready yet.

That is fine, too.

Just talk to eachother about what you want to gain from the experience, discuss contraceptive methods.

Eventually everything will work out if it's meant to be.

Your body is telling you wait and be smart.

There are many many reasons why sex before marriage is a poor idea.

U need to relax. Have a couple drinks and let the mood set.

Start with 4play, thats the best thing ever. Let him take control since, your new at everything, your body will relax,,,,,BELIEVE ME!

atart feeling stop thinking

go with the flow..ur tense because ur mind is not at ease

you are obviously not ready to have sex so just wait a while. discuss this with your boyfriend and let him know how you feel.