Is it true that most people meet there partners in college?

I don't think it necessarily has to be that we meet our partners in college. I certainly won't stop looking if I am not in a relationship when I graduate. I don't think you should limit yourself either. You might not meet the right man for you until you're 25 or 30. You are living and growing and when you are ready, the one who is right for you will come into your life and the two of you will evolve into the couple you are meant to be.

Just so you know, I wouldn't have said I wanted to meet you if I didn't think you were someone I could be friends with (at least). You seem like a very likable person and nobody who is living and breathing should give up on finding love.

I think it depends more on the person. My brother met his wife in college, they're in the process of splitting the sheets at the moment. Another friend met his wife in college, they're still together and going strong 12 years later.

One friend met his wife well after graduation, and I got a new "niece" out of the deal. They're still together. A pair of friends both had degrees and careers when they decided on a civil union and adoption.

I had serious relationships before college, none while in college, and several after college. It happens when it happens. "A watched pot never boils."

Why would anyone like me? Here I am with scars and tat's all over, a slight potbelly, a big dumb dog, and a house that desperately needs work. If people can like me, they can like you.

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Trust me there are many people out there like you. I know people in their 30's who have never had a "proper boyfriend or girlfriend". Gay people tend to be "late bloomers" when it comes to the whole dating/relationship situation due to the whole controversy surrounding it. Nobody wants to come out of the closet.

Also the whole college thing....don't worry about it. It's like the "American Dream". It doesn't exist. There is no rule book that says you MUST and WILL meet your partner in college and if that doesn't happen you will be alone for the rest of your life. I find that to be really superficial. It's just something that a lot of people BELIEVE is the ideal situation but for many people it doesn't happen that way. It's not realistic.

Maybe you will meet someone in college maybe you won't. Maybe you'll meet someone after you graduate college. Maybe that person you meet after college graduation you'll recognize from college. Maybe they weren't "out" in college but they are now. Maybe you'll meet someone at the gym or while jogging outside. Maybe you'll meet someone at work. Maybe you'll bump into someone at the grocery store. Maybe you'll meet someone at a networking event. Who knows. There are so many different possibilities. Just keep an open mind and an open heart. Strive to be an interesting person and take a genuine interest in people. Get involved in as many things as you possibly can and meet as many people as you possibly can. Be outgoing!

I met most people that I have relationship with after college when I have my own money to finace the lifestyle and sexual preference I love.

Don't be afraid of the unknown. Look at your face in the mirror and ask yourself if you like what you see. If you answered NO, probably other people would feel the same. In that case it's never late to change your personality for the better.

I think it's hard being of an orientation other than straight. It makes it difficult to really approach anyone, because it's impossible to tell if they, you know, swing the same way. Plus, people can be so closed minded and hurtful that it adds to the pressure. I think you'll find that your situation is not uncommon. I'm older than you and still haven't had any kind of serious anything. It's frustrating, but I trust that the universe will come around for me :) Good luck!

I don't know if there's any official data on that, but I met my wife while in grad school. My best friend met her now husband in Uni too. :)

No worries, Chango. You still have plenty of time. 20 is young. You seem like such a sweetheart. Whoever ends up with you will be one lucky man!

Edit: I agree with those who say, "It happens when it happens."

That is true. During or after their college experience.

well both of my sis have found there husbands before college one found there's in high school.. i don't think they can say OH it happens here.. i think it just happens when it does.

I sure hope so. I'm 19 and on the same boat as you :/

man i hope not cause i already graduated and haven't met anybody special!