Can you imagine life without the person you love? Is there a way to prepare yourself for life without them?

This thought runs through my head all day everyday but in a differnt context. My man works on a fishing boat is away for weeks on end without contact. Everytime I say goodbye to him I cry as I think it might be the last time I see him as I think something terrible will happen like the boat will sink or something. I could never imagine my life without him. We have two young children together and I dont think they would cope without him. We have been togther since I was 14 and he was 19 so there is hope for you.

Advice 1) friends - - even i have the same problem at school and masjid. dont worry, people have become like this. you can still find good friends, i know i did. patience is the key and Dua and Salah. - forget the girls at masjid. do not hate them but hate the sin they commit. 2) Clothes - - buy some, talk to your mom with kindness and show her whatever you have and pair the clothes up. Like say, on monday i wear this (then get the pant and shirt and vest and undergarments, then bring the socks. pair these up, say to your mom this is for monday. and do this for each day and each time a new pant and shirt and undergarment to be picked. so your mom will realize you need some more clothes. remember BE KIND. do not even say 'uff'. 3) Reputation - - Follow Islam and the Sunnah for sake of Allah, pleasure of Allah only. see in the Sunnah, what is the behaviour Prophet Muhammad (saws) had when he was in public, how did He (saws) behave etc.. - Do not seek the pleasure of others but seek Allah's pleasure.

I understand this completely. There is no way to prepare for losing someone you love. The only thing you can do is try to prevent it. Treat her like a queen and make sure she knows how you feel. Tell her the things you said here. Be the best you can be and maybe u wont have to lose her.

if you really love each other, youll be able to make it though. if something does happen, in the end i think youll come back to each other. sometimes i feel the same way you do. i love him and he loves me, but were still rather young. but i cant imagine living without him, and i dont think he can either. i dont think theres much you can prepare for, cause it hurts. and they say that the good things in life are never permanent, but in the end things usually... hopefully at least, work out

oh... nice deep feelings

you brought me back to these happy days when I was 16-25 and we been a football team together all young and cant live without each other a day or say an hour

and then: we finished and each one gone where life directed them

I can only see one of them now .he is living 10 countries away from me

but they still in my heart , the best days of my life

if she doesnt want to be with you anymore then your relationship isnt as stable as you think. If you two cant get through a challenge like this than its not worth it. And dont sulk around forever if you do break up cause its absolutely PATHETIC. you just have to look past the immediate state of mind and do some deep thinking of why you shouldn't be so sad. if you do break up, would you really love someone who does that to you because they can't survive that challenge? trust me, you can't prepare. just keep a clear mind about the situation and pull all of that "...but i LOVE her" bullcrap.

it's the brutal truth. sorry

i understand how you feel

and i will be honestly with you, nothing can prepare you for the pain you feel of losing the 1 u love

if you love her that much, then when the time comes, let her go, and keep thinking she will be happy

you just never know, she may turn up at your door in the future

or you might just not slit up, lots of people have are scared to lose there loved one

It's true though, about the good things not lasting forever... But you can extend it, and if she ever does break it up then... Suck it up and go find a new one... Think, is this love infatuation or reality...

don't worry cos someone will feel the same way about you one day, and you may well be unaware of this, so what's it matter - sounds like the two of you are just using each other to feel good about yourselves.

Well you can try to find someone your own age you love more!

Sure she will take a piece of your heart when she leaves or when you break up with her

trust that you will find someone better in the near or distant future