Why do "a lot" of black women show "favoritism" towards there own race?

Wow.............how very interesting, since in my experience I find that to be the exact issue of some (and I did say ''some'') Caucasian people. For instance, I work with 2 Women of Color (including myself) and the rest are Caucasian, our Boss included and yep just like we all knew what would happen. They all got promotions and we did not, yet all three of us Women of Color all have our Degree and most of my Caucasian co-workers don't even have a dipluma or even a GED, and got the jobs through Friends and Family's working in the Hospital.

So in other words, this can go both ways Dear. That's all I have to say.

First things first, let me just let you know that this issue you are having has nothing to do with one particular race, so let's not get it twisted there. You really shouldn't generalize one race in your question because trust me, all races do this same exact thing. Sometimes it isn't even about the person's race..if someone starts working with a person they have a lot in common with and start to get on that friend level, that's often what happens. I had the same situation happen at my last job where I was the only black person working there, most of the other people there were hispanic or white. I always felt like I got left out of the jokes and conversations all the time unless they were work-related and I barely received any feedback there. At times, while everyone else was standing around joking and stuff, I was usually the one sent to do certain tasks. Finally, I said forget it and got my butt out of there. First, what your boss is doing is totally wrong. A supervisor should never ever show favoritism and if I were you, I'd have a talk with her about how you feel and if things don't change find another job where I could be treated as an equal to everyone else.

Edit: Let me also not forget about the fact that my boss hired 3 new employees (all either white or hispanic) while I was there and all 3 of them were learning how to perform management functions while I had been there all along and he could barely even show me how to get to the non-management functions on the computer.

I as an African American Female as well feel that women of our race get pleasure of criticising each other. I feel the same as you too, I don't understand why we have to fight each other and put each other down while other races are sticking together. I sometimes envy, the Hispanics the most because I see how they stick together and are so proud to represent their heritage. But then again it is hard to respect some of the other black women because some just don't want to act right, some don't want to respect one another. Some of its jealousy they feel against each other. I remember when I first entered high school, which is a predominantly black school, i was criticised by the way that I dressed, which was usually very modest and more businesslike and they knew that I came from a catholic school, so I guess they thought I was rich. But I just feel that it is jealousy against one another!

I've run into that problem several times before when working in an office. However, it was worse because not only were they only being friendly with their race but they were giving the other employees of other races in this office a difficult time. So I think possibly you should be glad you have at least a neutral situation here.Maybe they are being socially friendly but not being difficult making for a hostile work environment.

I have seen what you are talking about. It does exist, and pretending it doesn't is ignorant.

I can only imagine that your boss just feels like she is leveling the playing field. What she is doing is wrong, but I'm sure she feels she is only being fair.

Its not fair to hold everyone responsible for the racism she has experienced, but some people can't see that objectively. Its a knee-jerk reaction, she might not be completely aware she is doing it.

Try and become a silent achiever, if people are over looking you like this, it's best to put your head down and be noticed through hard work. Don't create any reasons to be despised, don't joke with your boss. Always put on a serious face in front of her, if she tries and jokes with you...just give her a rye smile. Boss's can sense suck ups so don't be one.

Many Black people I know were raised with the idea that Whites do not like them--along with hundreds of years of evidence--and this may cause them to withdraw. I am positive that if you try to extend a geniune friendship toward this woman--and be yourself and not try to be "down" (Many of the Blacks I know HATE this) she will come around. With other Black peers, she does not have to worry about whether or not the person looking her in the face considers her a subhuman (lazy, complaining, and stupid) in their thoughts.

Its kind of the same situation when i was working at my old job in my city the manager always gave the men more leeway then the women employees (regardless of race) at least that's how me some female co-workers felt. I didn't stay there long though. :)

I just think because they feel their race has a lack of support from other races. I think they have a support system to help each other out since they feel that their race is at a disadvantage. I think part of it is their culture so all I say is just be understanding and be respectful of all races regardless of color.

I say smile and try to be her friend. Just be respectful that's all.

because us black people have been through alot and it just comes naturally to favour another fellow black person too..

that's why we call eachother "brothers&sisters" because even though we are not literally related we are black and we love our kind.

i know in buisness it shouldn't be like that but sometimes it just comes naturally and you can't help it, it doesn't mean we dislike white people it just means other black people come first to us.

and if it was our real blood relation fighting against another black person then we wouldn't stick up for the other black person we would stick up for our family, i just thought i would tell you that :)