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How do I get rid of these haunting memories?
When I was young child all of about 10, my father passed away. After that my step mother became very depressed. Her emotions were very rocky. She would be angry for a while, happy for a while. Sometimes she would even abuse me. I remember one day I had an accident and peed the bed while I was asleep. That next night my mom made me wear a diaper and sleep on the floor, because I was too old to ruin her mattress. This is one example. Anyway, as an adult just when I think I'm happy now and have left the past behind me, it creeps up again and I get anxiety attacks or stressed out over it for about a week. Sometimes I even have nightmares about mom and I fighting. Will I always have this, or will I ever be free of this? I've tried to do that several times, but the memories keep coming back to me in my head.
The last few sentences didn't make much sense. I meant I've tried to let go of the past and move on.
2 Answers
- destinyLv 71 decade agoFavorite Answer
My dear Jay....
Well....I sure have lots of empathy for you and can imagine that such horrifying memories are troubling your mind.....which is understandable. However....in order to free yourself from those terrible memories, you must forgive your Mom......
As soon as you tell yourself: "It was the best she knew how"....she just didn't know "any better", etc. then...you will be relieved from all the injustice she's caused you !
You see, Jay some women are just not meant to be "mothers" and should have better "raised a bag of fleas" instead of children....but...you must try to overcome all those "haunting" memories by forgiving her !
I sure wish you all the best for the future ! Greetings from Germany with all my love & care....your friend...Annette***
- i'm back !Lv 61 decade ago
I think that facing the memories is what you need to do. Do not be affected by them anymore. Take them head to head. Believe in yourself and the future, and don't try to bury your old memories. That wont solve anything, it will only cause resentment. If there is anger there too, then remember that the best sort of revenge is success. Succeed in everything you, despite everything and against the odds.