How to not seem so quiet?

Every one is different. Sometimes I wish my partner would be content just to sit with me and not say anything at all I love silence. The problem for you is maybe you are much more towards the quiet introverted side of the spectrum & when you mix with an extrovert (these people need to hear and make a lot of noise to be stimulated) it's a dramatic mismatch. I wouldn't worry to much about it if they don't like your silences you probably don't like their constant, meaningless chatter.

What Lindsey says makes sense, and for the most part I am going to agree with it. I will add from personal experience, though.

First let me that there is nothing wrong with being quiet. But you must be prepared for many more reactions like the one you just got, because excessive quietness DOES make a lot of people uncomfortable. If you are comfortable with those reactions, and maybe "losing" more friends (like this one with whom you no longer hang out), and being lonely most of your life (which, for better or for worse, is the path that I chose) then by all means stay in your comfort zone.

Being quiet has nothing to do with the type of person you are. Based on your one sentence ("idk what to say"), I think that you are aware to some degree the reason behind your own quietness. It's precisely because you are NOT sure about what to say that you say nothing.

(A wise saying I have picked up over the years is that in any situation there are 3 things you can do. The best thing you can do is, of course, the right thing. The second best thing you can do is the wrong thing. But the absolute WORST thing you can do is do nothing. Years ago, I did nothing, and lost the first - and to this day the ONLY - person I ever truly cared about.)

"Stand up and take some action", the song goes. My advice, and what has worked for me to some degree (although too late to be of any real help), is go out and learn what you can about things that interest other people. It does not have to be EVERYTHING about everything, but you should be familiar with a little bit about everything, so that you CAN know what to say in any given situation.

Personally, I think that it was in very bad taste that the other person laughed at you, and maybe in this particular case it is good that you are "not hanging out" anymore, but you also should realize that it is these spontaneous things that happen when people are drunk. This person obviously felt uncomfortable around you, because of the "annoying silences" (some people just cannot stand silence), and when her inhibition to tell you say was overcome by the alcohol, during one of those "annoying silences" she was too uncomfortable to NOT say something, so she did. Again, I think that the laugh was rather rude, but at the same time I understand where it came from, and that it was from the alcohol - NOT the person.

Finally, let me just say that it is usually from "talking for the sake of talking" that the most interesting conversations arise.

First, if your friend was drunk, she would not have been thinking well, and would have most likely lost her judgment, so you should not let what she said bother you. For the other friend, maybe it is funny that you are quiet. So am I, but that is the way you were made. Let yourself act the way that you are comfortable. In then end you WILL find friends who like you the way you are. Many people would prefer to hang out with a quieter person. Maybe you have not found those people yet but they are out there. Some people will be more comfortable with a louder person, but even around them you should just be yourself. Do not try to make yourself something you are not. Eventually you will not even know who you really are. I hope this helps!

You know, you have to be yourself around your friends, around everyone. Especialllly your friends.

If you're more introverted than they are, that should be okay. Don't speak just for the sake of speaking, that isn't the way to go about things.

Honestly, those who talk less are listened to more, at least in the real world..because those who talk less, when they finally decide to speak up, you know it's going to be something of value. You know?

Just stay true to yourself. Not talking a whole lot isn't weird, it's just in your personality. Every human is made differently, and with different character traits.

Consider this, maybe your friend is the 'weird one' because of her excessive talking?

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I have been the same way my whole life. I've recently developed an ability to interpret my boredom with conversation into funny quips that make people realize I don't care at all what we're talking about, am still like-able, and that it is not out of shyness that I do not speak often.

People like to laugh, so make them laugh if you can. It's just as effective and necessary as conversation most of the time.

your not the only one who like you, am the same way. when i go out with my fiance with his friends am so quite, i don't talk, cause i don't know what to say one of my fiance friends told me something mean cause i don't say anything, my man kicked his **** i told my fiance that am sorry that i don't talk plus am shy he said nothing wrong with that and be proud of what you are. i don't start trouble with my mouth and words. that who you are. i talk to people if i really know them.

Being quiet can actually be a really good thing. So don't worry about it. =)

Just be yourself.

If they're your real friends, they'll like you whether your quiet or not.