how not to be clingy?

That's an issue many come across when they are in relationships. If he says that you are the one being too clingy, kinda just be like okay whatever. Have HIM call YOU. Have HIM as YOU to hangout. Kinda like not trying, but not completely blowing him off. And when you guys do hangout, don't be so oh my god I only have little time with him we have to do everything and stuff. Just kinda live in the moment and take it all kinda slow. The next time you guys see each other make it better, and just build up from there on.

Clingy is normally texting a lot or sepnding all of your free time together and wanting to do everything together,

At the start of a relationship, normally both sides want to do all that stuff but as time goes on you tend to feel you need more time alone.

Give him some space. You may hate it but if you text every day, try to cut down and try to spend some free time apart too. If he's asking you to spend more time apart than you want though, then tell him so. It works both ways.

Dont change because of a guy. Change only because you're not happy about something.

If the problem is that you're spending all your energy trying to make him happy, then he doesnt appreciate it, and YOU are not loving yourself.

You got to realise that YOU ARE IMPORTANT, and that it is important to love yourself, to be confident in your own skin, with your own life, to make others appreciate you.

IF you only spend your energy to make others happy, then the signal you're sending is that its ok for anyone to stamp all over you, like a doormat.

If the receiver of that signal is a male, then youre in trouble.

Start doing stuff that makes you feel good, feel free, feel like you can do anyting. This could be, for example, taking horse riding lessons, going for runs, training for a charity run/cycle.

Try to learn things that will help you become self sufficient. Even if you still live under your parents wing, you can start to develop your confidence and independence.

Trust me, people like girls who are intelligent and arent crying all the time for help.

Guys respond to girls according to how they behave.

If you're loud and crass, then you can expect guys to treat you without much respect. Equally, If youre a girl who likes short skirts and low cut tops, then they will treat you like an easy girl.

If instead, you dress classy but still looking attractive, then guys will still approach you, but they will treat you with more respect.

Perhaps he doesn't really like you. If you were in love, he would love every second with you.

let him come to you