Opinions needed, cyber-sex issue?

This is a tough one.

If he was just jacking off to porn, then answer would be (to me) an unqualified "no."

But he's interacting with someone else. Which would be cheating, right?

Except that he's not seeing the person, nor does he know who he (and it could even be a she) is.

It would bother me for sure. But I don't know if I would call it truly cheating. What bothers me about it is that I am sure it might lead to "uppping the ante" where he might cheat.

Talk to him. Calmly, and express your feelings about it.

It's harmless as long as it doesn't escalate into in-person meetings. I know nothing of these kinds of sites, but it sounds like it's simply a high-tech form of porn, albeit a more interactive one.

Your boyfriend isn't cheating unless he actually touches someone. If you've ever masturbated to porn when he's not around, then consider the score even and don't dwell on this -- everyone has some kind of secret they keep from their partner.

If it's a real person on the other side your boyfriend is cybering with, then it might be considered cheating, but if it's not a person, then I doubt it is cheating. If I was in your situation, I'd probably be upset, but as for what you should do, try giving small hints that you know about the game, maybe he'll tell you about it, and tell you why he is playing that game.

This isn't something I'd be very worried about, it's no different than him getting off on porn.

Edit: I didn't see the part where you can contact other users, I looked again and saw that yeah you can do that. In that case, you need to talk about it with him. It could be innocent, don't be on the defense until you get some answers from him first.

I don't know whether it could be considered cheating or not but if it bothers and upsets you perhaps you should let him know... But then again you don't wanna seem like a control freak and make it seem like you're trying to stop him from doing what he likes.... I say talk about it, don't go off in one, hear his side of the story =]

well essentially it's interactive porn. and i definitely do NOT consider porn cheating, but some people are really sensitive about it. I think it's not that big a deal if it's what he likes to do. still, you can't help how you feel and if it's really bothering you, then you have a right to ask him kindly and respectfully to stop. he should reply respectfully in turn, but be aware that he may be very self conscious about it, or not want to stop doing it, and you may want to respect him.

i mean, it's really not cheating, in my book. i don't think it should be in yours either.

i think its just something to pass the time. i would be upset that he uses it and didn't tell u. but i wouldn't consider it cheating as long as he keeps the actions ONLINE and animated. i can understand your frustration. if he starts acting weird and distant then you probably need to watch out for the cheating.

hope this helps

i looked it up, and it appears that you can just chat to people like a normal room, but another part of it is cyber sex. it is pretty bad, and really like cheating, i agree, but its not quite as bad. i would talk to him about it, and if he does it again or something more, lose him, hes trouble.

Sounds lie he just talking dirty to strangers there no cheating really he just masterbaiting

it sounds like just a fun game to pass the time. i really wouldn't worry about it too much.

EDIT - if/when he contacts these guys to meet in real life, then i'd be worried.