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Friends with an ex-girlfriend?

This girl and I broke up a while ago, due to her being extremely shady and hanging out with this guy. Well after the breakup we decided to try and be friends, recently I discovered she is now dating this guy and has been for quite some time. I want to be friends with her and realize that we just aren't good for each other, but its so awkward because she is always being so mushy with him: "My life has changed singe the moment i met you<3", etc. And she is always bragging about how much of an amazing perfect day they had. I don't really want to be with her, but for some reason it still makes me feel awkward and hurt when i read or hear about what she does with her new bf. (She was even talking about her hickeys on her breasts) I try to be as cool as I can be about it, but i guess it still bothers me.

We had a conversation in which I told her I don't want to just sit around and be friends with her while shes was out doing other guys, but she refuses to not be friends with me. She says she wants us to become really close and be great friends and wants me to talk to her everyday.

I'm so confused. Any suggestions?

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  • 1 decade ago
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    It's not really up to her whether or not you two remain friends. If she's trying to force a friendship you're not ready for, she sounds pretty immature. If you don't feel comfortable being around her and hearing about her love escapades with her new boyfriend, I don't blame you! Out of respect, she shouldn't be divulging that kinda information to you and if she doesn't understand that, you should definitely part ways for now at least.

  • 1 decade ago

    I think you and your ex need some more space. I think you're more mature than her and she needs to get over you before you can be friends. It sounds like she is intentionally trying to make situations awkward for you. It she really wanted to be friends with you, I think she would avoid talking about whoever she is with, or what she does with that person. It's only polite.

    Speaking from experience, I think time and space is the only thing that can let ex's ever be friends. I dated a guy for a few months right after high school. He was way more into our relationship than I was. I wound up having to break up with him. We spoke here and there in the beginning but then he told me he doesn't want to talk to me for a while. I wasn't happy and a little offended but in due time I understood he made a wise decision. Now I go to the same college as him and even had some classes with him recently. I'm currently dating someone he is kind of friends with (more like acquaintes) and I've heard my ex doesn't much approve. Despite that, I avoid talking about my new guy, and don't pry into his personal life. We keep it friendly, polite, and sometimes we can talk easily for quite a while. Had we kept trying to be friends after the breakup, we would both run at the sight of each other. I'd say we didn't talk for a year.

    So, basically I think time will help you out. Just avoid her. Friendship isn't totally impossible.

  • 1 decade ago

    Maybe she's not over you and is trying to make you jealous? That's how my ex was, wanting to talk to me all the time and telling me about his new girlfriends and what not. I'm over him so I didn't care but he was doing it because he wanted to make me want to be with him again. I'd say cut off ties with her, it'll make it easier. Good luck!

  • Anonymous
    1 decade ago

    Having her around isn't healthy for you. You need to cut all ties with her no matter what she wants. To me, she sounds like she may like this new guy but she wants to run it in your face.

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  • 1 decade ago

    I think you should find someone else you really care about. Don't try to make her jealous and rub it in. Just move on and be friends with her. Maybe ask her not to talk about it so much.

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  • Anonymous
    1 decade ago

    Ugh, I could not have a person like that in my life.

    Drop her, you are in control of who is a part of your life.

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