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its been nearly a year that i've been with my boyfriend we have no issues in our relationship whatsoever (especially since i've changed  myself being over protected in the last relationship) except for this small concern about his ex. before i met him i knew his ex as an acquaintance through a close friend of mine that was her friend .. well when me and my boyfriend got together i found out who his exs were and his last relationship was with her . in a way it was awkward since i didn't know about it until he told me but i didn't make a big deal out of it. until this one time we bumped into each other at a club and i said hi and whatever and she tells me that she's dissapointed cause i didn't tell her that i was with her ex since i was her "friend" and that shes happy for me and all this other crap like she loved him and that she was pregnant with him. and some days she'll call to ask my bf  if she could come over to his house to greet his parents or would call to say happy birthday. i try to ignore it but it bothers me a little. i don't know if thats right for me to let her try to interfere with our relationship by trying to some how communicate and kiss up to my bf's family. he also thinks its a good thing that i'm letting her .but even my bf's bestfriend says shes doing this on purpose like shes a fake and doesn't care if she tries to interefere. do you think so ? what is she trying to do ? what would you do? she thinks im her friend am i suppose to act like a ***** ? 

thanks for any response and so sorrry for the long question xD

Anonymous · Accepted Answer

don't feel like a ***** you are within your rights to well be a little ticked off at her. honestly she probably has feeling for your bf and has built us resentment and hurt so she is burrowing her way into his life again. honestly I think I would do one or two things 
A) talk to your boyfriend specifically what is bothering you. If you sit in this anxiety and frustration it will eat at your relationship in the long run  
B) don't confront her but don't let her win ( not saying become her) but you can charm too ( just be sincere) ~ my bf  has a friend that is IN LOVE with him and she became my "friend" to look good,It made me defensive because he means too much to me for me to give up. so I figured I would treat her as a friend and eventually I wasn't as upset because I know he loves me and that she is just unable to get ride of the torch she has going for him (I can empathize with that) and I gained respect for her... anyway my bf and his friends figured out what was going on and were impressed, they don't see her facade any more... for me it was empowering- don't treat her like dirt, or be fake but be genuine

emily93 · Answer

look the chick is just bitter cuz your with her ex-man
and if you thought yall were just aquaintences then thats all yall were it doesnt matter if she thought u'll were friends ha.

ok and the whole parent thing umm shes just tryin to piss you off like honestly... why would she call your bf's parents now that yall are together and wouldnt b4 right? ha

wat i would do is try to talk to your boyfriend about this...if it bugs you which im sure it does cuz your askin us for help then your bf should try to understand and do wat he cans to make it better right ha

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