Hurt Best Friend, What to do?

She's hurt, giver her time. Perhaps you need to avoid any answers that sound negative. Instead of saying, I can't... you say let me figure out what I can do. So, you tell her I am alone here and responsible for stuff, but in so many hours I will be there. Or, better yet... I'll be at your place at this certain hour. In moments of distress many people are overly sensitive to negative comments. They don't want to hear no, and can't do. Rather, communicate what you can and attempt to do. That's good psychology to use, because in distress people want to hear messages of hope. Go figure. So you ask her if she's OK, if she can hang on until.... the time you can be with her. Ask her things like: is there anyone that can stay with you until I get there? Should I call someone for you?

If you offer more than they thought about their emotions balance somehow.

I had to make a tough decision almost like yours last night. Most of the time is not what you say but how you deliver the message. Good luck. She'll forgive you sooner than later.

What I'd do, if I were you, is that I would give her some time. Losing a father (even a step-father) isn't easy at all, and that can make you feel angry about everything around you. She'll understand after a while.

You don't need to go explain everything, just show that you're there for her whenever she needs you.

i believe that you did nothing wrong.. and you should not feel bad.

i understand where she is coming from.. but her emotions right now are all shook up.. and she will soon realize that you couldnt leave and that you do love her more than your job.

just be there for her now. she still needs you.. and this will all blow over.

if she cant realize that she means the world to you.. and you just COULD NOT leave at that instant.. ur best friend is very self centerd.. but im sure she will come around.

just keep your head up.

to be completely honest the only thing you can do it approach ehr calmly explain your side of the story. tell her there are things that need to be done in like even if other things prioritize over them. if she cannot execpt that, shes being childish, and letting ehr emotions take over. shes prolly just amd at the fact that you couldnt come.. if you guys are that close she should kno you would be there as soon as possiable.

i guess she really needed u and u were not there 4 her u should have tried to call some1 to take ur place or anything but don't worry she'll get over it if u r really close as u say and trust me good friends don't give up on eachother that easily....but try to be there 4 ur friend next time.

YOUR FRIENDS REACTION WAS A TOTALLY EMOTIONAL ONE.

SHE ISN'T THINKING CLEARLY BECAUSE OF THE LOSE SHE'S DEALING WITH. TRY CONTACTING HER OR GO TO THE HOUSE.

LET HER KNOW THAT YOU MEANT NO HARM AND COULDN'T LIVE AT THAT MOMENT. JUST BE PATIENT WITH HER, AND BE THERE WHEN YOU CAN.

I'M SORRY FOR THE LOSS AND PRAY SHE FINDS COMFORT!

GOOD LUCK

tell her your really sorry. that the most important thing is that your their for her now.

i dont think anyone can be mad at their friend if their step father just passed away.

SAY YOUR SORRY