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Ladies please, How long should a guy wait to text/call a girl after she gives you her number?
Ok so I'm trying this whole online dating thing. This girl sent me an e-mail saying that she loved my e-mail and thought it was funny. She said that she has been really busy and apologized for the late response back to me so she gave me her number and said feel free to call/text her and inviting me to coffee in the near future.
My question is when should I? I was thinking wait a day and send her a funny flirty text. Then some of my female friends said to do it later today otherwise she will think i don't like her. Others say wait a few days so as not to appear too desperate/needy. What do you think? I have only emailed this girl twice.
Iam 23 she is 27
35 Answers
- 1 decade agoFavorite Answer
I say go with your instinct. This is early in the game where you two are getting to know each other. If she doesn't reply its probably not because of when you texted her but beacuse it was you who texted her. But i don't think you have to worry about it since within two e-mails you have aleady secured the digits and and date. Don't feel bad about texting her with the same. Now I'm not saying text a girl as soon as she give you her number. The 3 day rule is something stupid. everyone is different. you just have to go with the flow. take you time allow her to take her time and just go with it. See I say this like i'm a pro but if i was in your situation I'd be panicking to. Good luck man. be confident. and if things don't work out with this one. remember there are plenty of fish in the sea.
- 1 decade ago
Don't contact her right away. Wait for as long as she waited to get back to you...otherwise, you will look overly eager. I've met a few guys online, and I can honestly say that desperation is one of the biggest turn-offs. You don't want to look like you don't have a life, or look like you're obsessing over her. If her excuse was that she was too busy to respond to you right away, do and say the same thing. I think waiting a few days might be a little too long, though. Wait for a day and a half. Send her a text or email the following evening, and say that you worked late. That will look good.
- 1 decade ago
Not a girl but I can answer this. I agree with your female friend. The three day rule pertains to the first in-person date. There is no time rule with texting/emailing other than you need to not do it too much. In other words, if she emails or texts you, you're pretty good to answer whenever but do take care that over time you don't seem like you're available all the time (and you shouldn't be -- if you are, you need a life).
As far as the in-person meeting... if it goes super well, wait 2-3 days before contacting her. If she contacts you, fine. But give her room to breath and to process. Whatever you do, don't come across as needy.
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- 5 years ago
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Calling the day after a first date falls under this category. You don’t have to talk for hours. Just call and thank her for the date; tell her you had a good time and that you look forward to seeing her again. It’s that simple. That’s all women need to hear. Hell, if it’s something you would do after a job interview, shouldn’t you at least do it for a woman you’re interested in.
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- 1 decade ago
Definetly 1 day.
If you text her today, than yeah, you might seem a little excited.
If you wait 2 or 3 days she'll totally think you forgot all about her. Don't listen to the people who say more than one day.
1 day is perfecto, good luck w/ the girl!
- Gatinha. ♥Lv 41 decade ago
people are so naive. why do they continue with these ridiculous rules for dating. love has no boundaries okay. if she gave you her number she WANTS you to text her or call her
waiting a 'few days' is going to seem like you are uninterested first of all, and second there is nothing wrong with texting her now - you can just let her know hey this is _____ here's my number, and if you get a response continue with the 'flirty message'
you are thinking about this way too much for texting. my only suggestion don't text her every waking minute or too much. i find texting impersonal, no one wants to text you their entire day when they can easily call you and do it. that's what a phones for!!! texting isn't the way to go about dating someone, call her!!
..i can't believe all these people telling you to wait a week, a day three days. ridiculous~
- 1 decade ago
2 to 3 days text her for a while
ask her out in a week or two after you guys have been texting
- Anonymous1 decade ago
When i give a guy my number, im just waiting for them to call.....when they finally do (about a day later) im happy. so i would say about a day. over that the girl might say, well maybe he's moved on.
- Anonymous1 decade ago
I think wait a few days...if she really wntd to talk to u..then she wuldve said u can call me now?...but i agree that u shuld wait a few days to not look so desperate or to give her the feeling that u r rushing into this relationship...