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Is his ex-girlfriend/baby momma a hater?

the guy i'm dating introduced me to his 4yr. old son and his ex-girlfriend it went great we had dinner together let the kids play and all that good stuff, well the other day she called me and said sooooooo much bad stuff about him i asked her did she still want to be with him she said no then i said ok well i understand that you guys didn't work out and i'm sorry that he hurt you, but i really care about him and i really don't want to hear bad stuff about him, i like her and wouldn't mind being her friend but should i trust her or kind of back off from her, she claimed her reason for sharing the news with me was so i wouldn't get hurt too, i don't like drama so i told her not to tell him that we talked and i didn't want to repeat anything she because i don't want him mad at either one of us i just listened and went on with my day....how would you handle it or did i do the right thing

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  • 1 decade ago
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    I do like the way you handled it. But be careful. And trust me. She's not a hater. Nowadays women are trying to look out for one another but we fail to listen because we think we know it all and you may feel the way you do because your personality may be different from hers and maybe you feel you can handle him better than she could. Maybe. But you don't know what happened in their relationship and you're still getting to know this man. Maybe he has strong personality traits that caused his last break up. And if he couldn't fix them back then, he's going to bring all that crap to you. So she's just warning you t be careful and take it slow with him and don't get yourself so far in the relationship where you can't back out of it, especially if you see bad things going on with him. So be careful... She's not a hater.

  • 1 decade ago

    I guess you did the right thing but I wouldn't just ignore what she told you maybe keep it mind so you don't get hurt too but don't let it guide you in your relationship either. For example, my ex-husband and I get along ok for the sake of my child but he was a jerk during our marriage and I know about somethings that he has done since being with his current wife. I don't tell her because I am not getting involved plus its not my place but in many instances past behavior predicts future behavior...just a thought...

  • 1 decade ago

    i think you should stay away from that girl,she will tell you things about him because she still cares for him and she wants to start trouble between you and him.she will tell you she do not want him but she did have a baby for him so she will have some sort of feelings still towards him but if he is what she say he is then time will tell but in the mean keep her at arms length and let her that you are a big woman and you do not have time for all that petty stuff

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    4 years ago

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  • Anonymous
    1 decade ago

    I would talk to him and ask him about some of the stuff she told you and hopefully he will be honest. If he says its not true i would back off of being her friend she probably wants him back. just because your dating him you dont have any obligations to be connected to her so you wouldnt be wrong. she shouldnt be interfering with your relationship because if he was really sincere he would tell you anything you should know.

  • 1 decade ago

    I think you did the right thing I feel that she just may be a little hurt and wanted to vent

  • Anonymous
    1 decade ago

    She's obviously jealous and doesn't want you with him, I would avoid her. She's trying to make him look bad in hopes that you won't want him anymore. Anyone else would've just minded their own business. Just try to stay away from her

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