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Registry Info. question....?

Ok so I now know it is in appropriate to put your registry card in with your invitation (even though that is what I always see). We are not mailing out save the date cards. So what I would like to know is what is appropriate to put them in? I am not having showers so I can not put them in there. Is there an aception to the rule? We are getting married in California and live in Nevada. Most of his family lives there. Mine is spread across the country.

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  • Anonymous
    1 decade ago
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    If you aren't having showers, then you don't include the cards in anything... especially the wedding invitation. A few days after my invitations went out, people started asking my me, my mom or my fiance where we were registered. If they ask, it's fine to tell them, or you can spread the info through word of mouth. We also had the info on our wedding website which was free and simple to set up.

    It's really not hard to get the word out at all. People that want to buy you something off your registry won't have a hard time at all finding out where you are registered. I've even searched for the couples' names at some 'usual' registry places if I don't know where they're registered. Don't worry about it.

    Edit: The reason why you don't add the registry info in with the wedding invite is because the wedding itself is not a gift giving occasion- it's like putting those registry cards in a birthday invitation. People who want to give a gift will. However, showers are gift giving occasions- that's the whole point of the party, so it's acceptable to include that info. I know it may seem silly, but it's the polite way to do it.

  • Anonymous
    1 decade ago

    Please don't put them in your invitations. Doing so is essentially telling your guests they must bring a gift when they come to your wedding.

    The acceptable way to include registry cards is with your shower invites - but since you're not doing that - you've run out of options.

    I'd suggest you create a wedding website that includes registry info (and links) and maybe even a little bit of information about the wedding party, how the two of you met, things to do while folks are in town and the like.

    You could also make sure your parents, the groom-to-be's parents and the entire wedding party know where you are registered so they can pass that info along via word of mouth.

    Once you have the site up and running - you could send an email out to your guests and let them know they have an online resource for info related to your wedding.

    The Knot has a few wedding website listings, most aren't that expensive.

  • 1 decade ago

    Even though some people do it, it is considered tacky to include the info in the invitation. Like others have said, it's not hard to find registry info online if someone chooses to get you a gift. (Which I am sure most will.) But I agree that you could create a "theknot.com" wedding webpage and maybe email a link to the page to your friends/families. You can have your registries listed on there, but be sure and fill in other info like about yourselves, the proposal, ceremony, etc. That way it is not obvious you are just spreading your registry info around.

    Send out an email like - "We're so excited about our big day and having you celebrate with us! Please check out our wedding webpage for all the details!"

  • Anonymous
    1 decade ago

    Create a wedding website and you can put the wedding website in your invitations. Because you are simply putting the website in the invitation for them to go and check out at their own discretion then they are at your site by their own choice and can find your registries on your website. You can also put other important information on the website about the wedding (i.e. when the RSVP cards are to be sent back by, where you are having the wedding ceremony, where you are having the reception, information for making reservations at hotels, etc.). This is probably the easiest way as there are a lot of places to start up a free and easy to build wedding website. You could also do it by word of mouth but then you are going to have to deal with a lot of people asking you about it.

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  • 1 decade ago

    I've never really seen registry info included with a wedding invitation, it's always on the shower invitation. you just have to ask your parents and the groom's parents to spread the word if people ask them where to get you gifts. the only way is word of mouth.

  • 1 decade ago

    You don't use them at all. They are not really appropriate to use but of course the stores aren't going to tell you that. They want to advertising. If people want to buy you something from a registry then they will find it. There aren't that many places or they will ask you or a family member who will tell them.

  • 1 decade ago

    We have a free wedding website with the knot that includes links to our registry, along with all other wedding info. We printed our website address on our reception cards without saying anything about our registry.

  • Anonymous
    1 decade ago

    The only place they are appropriate to put in is the shower invitations because showers are gift giving parties. Wedding gifts are not mandatory so to put them with anything involving the wedding implies that you expect gifts from your guests. Word of mouth is the best way, and if someone asks you can tell them where you are registered.

  • 1 decade ago

    No exception to the rule. Just toss those cards the store gave you in the trash. If people are wondering about your registry, they will ask you about it and THEN you are free to tell them where you are registered.

  • 1 decade ago

    Think about having a website or just include the registry card with your invitation and RSVP cards. If you put all the information in your invitations then it won't seem rude because you are giving everything they need at once.

    Things you include:

    Invitation

    RSVP

    Registry

    Directions *optional*

    Reception *optional*

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