Is it ok for my husband to go to beach with ex and kids while I am out of town for the first time?

How does she look in a bikini? That would be my determination.

Oh my, sends you away and calls his ex to go to the beach? No, that is not okay...lets all not try to act like this might be somehow okay if everyone is mature. If this was something everyone was already comfortable with he would not have lied about it. When a husband does something that he has to lie about he should not be doing in the first place. That is the sacrifice of loving someone!

Obviously the way he went about it was all wrong and totally unacceptable. If I were in that situation we would be in some serious mess right now because my husband's ex stalked us for the first four years together and tried everything she could to tear us apart because she wanted to be with him.

Every situation is different but he should not have lied to you and he shouldn't have tried to keep it from you. RED FLAG!!!

Be careful dear, sounds like something is up.

WOW

Lets see I date a guy with kids from a prev relationship and would not be happy f he lied to me and was with his ex

its one thing if its a doc apt school function but a day at the beach would make me re think it and tell him he hurt you and the trust is on thin ice

ya right you need to check that out he is a married man he should of not been at the beach with his ex what is that i can understand taking his kids but not her you need to put him straight or leave him alone because something is still going on with him and his ex don't be used from no man.

Apparently the real issue is not him being at the beach with his kids, but the fact he lied to you about it. So if he told you he did nothing, how did you find out he went to the beach?!?

I do NOT feel this was "proper" for him to do this to you! Why did he wait for you to go away w/your parents then pull a stunt like he did?! It almost sounds as tho it was "planned"! This surely was a sneaky thing for him to do to you nonetheless. How "cozy" of him to do this against you. He at least could have had the guts to tell you this BEFORE you left! I'd sure tell him you WILL NOT tolerate him doing anything of this sort thing again. The "games" people play! Best to you...:)

Why did he lie to you? If they are trying to act civil for their kids sake spending time together should not be an issue as long as he's honest about it. it's only right for a father to spend time with the kids. Talk to him though.

He did it because he knew that you would react badly. You need to realize that he needs to be with his kids and stay in their life. Some of the time that means he is going to be with the ex too. You should have realized this when you married a man that had an ex wife and kids.

Um, I'd be horribly angry because that is something that is completely unacceptable in my marriage.

However, my husband and I were mature and responsible enough to talk to one another about what would and wouldn't be acceptable in situations BEFORE we got married -- something you and your husband should have done before.

Now you need to sit down with your husband and discuss boundaries and what is and isn't acceptable to the two of you as each other's spouse.

What?!? That would definitley not fly with me AT ALL. First of of, is not not considerate enough to see how you would even feel when he did that? And second, he LIED to you. Sorry, but I wouldn't stand for it.