If two kids have a child together and neither one wants to care for it, who is responsible?

The parents are responsible for their childs actions. So if you can't keep them home to care for it, it is your responsibility to. Maybe it's time for you to start parenting him, before you work on the baby.

The birth parents are legally responsible for the child. If they don't or won't care for the baby, then either the grandparents step in, or the child is turned over to social services. You and your son should sit down with the girl and her parents and make some decisions. The birth parents are very young and not really prepared to care for a child. It is up to you and the other grandparents to help this young couple make the right decisions for their baby.

Many states have mediators, who can help keep the discussion on task instead of breaking down to name calling and accusations. If you feel that you and your son cannot talk with the mother and her family, Contact your state social services agency or court systems to see if they offer mediation.

Good luck to you and the baby.

He's right - as a minor, he can't be a legal guardian. You are.

On the other hand, you're also the legal guardian of your son, so you can force him to stay at home if you want to. I'm not an advocate of parents forcing their children to do things, but this is your son's child. Legal guardian or not, he should spend time with it.

If you don't wish to care for the baby, and neither does he or its mother, then you're legally entitled to give it up for adoption.

If they are not good parents and they have no close dependable family members, then the state will take the child.

Well, unless you want to adopt then you could force him to stay home and watch it.

But, he is 14 and obviously not old enough to take care of himself, let alone another baby. So, it's probably best that you look after the little one.

It's child services work not yours miss, take the child there and get it a good loving home.

I'm not in the states nor from them so I can not answer this question in any legal sense .. though I can say things on the moral aspects.

I 'd honestly tell them, you're not obliged at all to be parent to their baby till he's eighteen, because you were forced into this situation for one .. & for two, I'd think "Child Welfare" (whatever their govenment name is in your state) would be the one who has ruling in this case. If you volunteer to be mother, of course that changes things a little - but I'd think legally, unless 'child welfare' are aware of the situation & agree you are best suited to the role (as mother) - but if you volunteer to be mother, under the auspice of 'child welfare' your son no longer has entitlement to the child.

Hence, if he & his two year older girlfriend do not wish or intend to give their free time to the child as fully as they can or by obligation are required to, I'd honestly tell them flatly 'child welfare' must be informed & made aware of the child & their wish to state law to you (forcing you to be the carer) .. because that constitues negligence on their part & if they can or do that just once & it works in their favor, would it not be right in their minds to do it as often as they wanted to? Wouldn't that deprive you of your time & also, things you might want to do? Isn't that manipulation (by them of you)?

Morally, no one has the right to have a child & claim belief such is their child .. then demand someone else care for the child to suit their schedule. That's ludicrous. I really hope you speak with a counselor even from a hospital if you must .. & learn the laws in this case ..then quote them to your son .. because he's going to control you whenever he can or wants to if you don't do that .. how unfair of him to manipulate his own mother that way. And of course, if dealing with counselors by phone, there's no need to be totally elaborate on who & where you are .. you could give them a speculative or 'third person' example of a case as you describe .. just in case you don't like the idea of law becoming interested or involved.

But please, don't let your son or his girlfriend just walk on you.

Just made some quick & simple enquiries myself & found this much out. He & she, father & mother of child .. are minors .. both (far as I know) not earning an income & both incapable (if attending school) of even providing food or clothing for the baby .. let alone medical insurance or coverage .. & from what I was just told, that automatically becomes a matter of interest to the various state child welfare departments. Unless you as mother of the fourteen year-old, fully & totally agree to become legal guardian of the baby, both the father & mother being juveniles, have no legal grounds whatever of any kind & the child officially, becomes the responsibility of the child welfare agency. You legally can not be told you are responsible or that you are the mother by law till he's eighteen .. it's simply not true & correct at all. If you do become legal guardian of the baby, the father & mother automatically have no legal or other standing of any kind & can never make decisions re the baby itself till they're of age & proven capable of being fully responsible in all aspects for the child. For you to become legal guardian, which means you'd be responsible for the baby in all regards, the child welfare agency & courts would be involved & agreeable.

I feel like submitting your writings & mine to the law in Virginia & they can find you via Yahoo .. but I don't want to cause you any undue pressures .. it hurts me being in this position. I'll contact Yahoo & ask them to pass to you my email address & ask you to tell me whatever comes to mind .. I'm an old man in Taiwan .. not the law in the US ..so no harm there. I'll wait two weeks before submitting anything to Virginia legal departments. Please tell me how you feel about all this & what you may eventually settle on.

Aw, lucky, my boyfriend studies in VA, I wish I was there --- okay stupid of me.

Your son is very young, and of course he will not take care of the baby. I mean come on. How about you take care of your grandson just for now, until your boy turns 18 -- but show him that he needs to be responsible? And what about that girl? She is 16 -- she should take care of him too, not only your son.

This is a big mistake. I dunno how you are handling it.

it is the girls responsibility because they are older and also the one who gave birth to the child.

My advice is to get it adopted or put in foster care until your able to provide it with the love and support a child needs

wow even iam smart enogth to wear condom

as for your problem

umm your pretty much doomed until they get 18