how do i get over him?

I went through almost the same exact thing...

Just don't think of him, don't talk about him, anything that reminds you of him, throw it out. Think of how better everything is without him. Was he holding you back from something? Well now you can do whatever he wasn't letting you do. I know it's corny but there are other fish in the sea. He wasn't the right guy but don't worry you''l find him soon. Just think positive. He doesn't deserve you and you are so much better than him. :]

I'm sorry about your situation, but you're right, getting over him is the best idea right now.

Here's something I tried and it WORKED:

I wrote a colorful letter to myself in biggish font [on word] and i just praised myself saying how I will get over him because I can do better and it wasn't meant to be and whatnot. Your situation is different so you can write a message to yourself now as your future self and make up things, like talk about how great it is that you're over him and stuff.

Totally BS the whole thing, but it works if you try to believe it. I copied it onto my phone so whenever I'm around him I can remind myself without getting too caught up in him.

It sounds stupid, I know, but it totally worked.

ohh. i've been in a situation like that once.

People always say to forget about it and move and find someone--and you dont deserve him/her. but they really dont understand your feelings at all. I know i do. if it makes you feel any better id share my story.

I once met this girl who i really liked. We were best of friends for about 9 months, she used to act a funny way where she likes me, and over time, i seemed to had liked her. Just my luck..until one day i've got the shocking news when she told me she had a crush on a guy.. I was crushed. Like you, I've said the worst thing ive ever said in my life...now she hates me so much that she doesnt even wanna talk to me. Now shes currently dating someone who happen to be a lady-killer. And i was hurt for days...and i couldve barely sleep during the nights...thinking about it.

But you have to know, this isnt your fault, its life. We all feel crushed and happen to stimulate anger and hatred when our love isnt returned.

But to help you out though, hes some tips:

The best thing you can do in getting over a broken heart quicker, is to avoid contacting or seeing your ex for as long as possible. While this may be very difficult to do in a time when you miss them most, it is vital for your healing to begin.

A good idea would be to get away and take a short break or holiday. This will help you get used to not being around your ex. Do not feel bad if you find it hard to do, but remember that you are trying to get over somebody you spent most of your time with. Like many others, we understand if this step is painful for you at first when trying to heal a broken heart.

You most probably feel that if you could just see or talk to them that everything would be alright, but this is not true…And it would only lead to more heartache, as all your negative feelings are brought to the surface.

In learning how to get over a broken heart, you need distract and prevent yourself from thinking about your ex and the failed relationship. So get out there, get involved in a new sport or hobby. In fact just going to the gym and working out will help release a lot of tension.

Exercise is great for releasing endorphins - feel good chemicals - that will make you feel happier. While taking part in activities and socializing with others can be very hard to do, it is an important step in healing a broken heart and moving on.

The worst thing you could do is bottle up your feelings, so spend time talking to close friends or family and let them know how you feel. This is a helpful way for you to understand the breakup, and provide you with the support and guidance to continue on with life and get over a broken heart.

Hanging out with friends is a fantastic distraction during this time. They have the ability to make you smile, even when you are feeling awful. Your friends may also give some great advice from their experiences, which could help you fix a broken heart.

Once you have given yourself time to come to grips with the breakup, it is time for you to pick yourself back up and start dating again. Meeting someone new and having feelings for them is one of the best ways of learning how to get over a broken heart.

i wish you all the best and hope everything goes well.

move on to somebody else