Would you give up everything you have worked for the last 50 years to get out of a sex less marriage?

I did, I left my husband and most of what I had worked for , for many long years. I don't regret this in my case as I am now very happy & wasn't before, for a long time.

I think you should talk to your wife & try to sort something out before you do anything you might regret though.

If you already had found a new love (as I did) that would be different.

I would want to stay and work on the marriage. Why is it sexless? Unless it's a permanent, non-fixable physical condition, there are usually reasons that can be worked on. If it was a permanent condition, I would work around that. Why is it sexless - if you can answer that, you can work to fix it.

**edit - the additional details change what I think a little. I thought it was your only marriage and that you have been married for 50 years. This would make you much older than you are and if it was your only marriage (and such a long one) it would devastate the family. You are not much older than me (I'm 45) and your marriage is not that long (16 years is long, but nothing close to 50 like I thought). I would not want to be in a sexless marriage in my early 50's. I would want it to change or possibly end. Sex is definitely not the biggest part of marriage, but it is very important.

That is a very good question. My answer to that would be no. Once you've reached a certain age in life.. as we all will, sex on the list will eventually move from " one to ten" One being the top of the of the list.

Because sex does not and should not become the sole reason why you are with someone and it shouldn't be a top priority in that relationship.

Love conquers all aspects in ones life. Security,trust, commitment, values, morals, honesty. Those are some of the things that should be in place long before sex. Sex will last a moment if these things aren't first in a relationship.

However, sex will last a life time if these things are present in the relationship.

Now don't get me wrong i enjoy sex just as much as anyone else, but i rather have a lasting , loving commitment than a moment of passion.

To me, it would be all worth it and my partner would be all worth it as well..

Are you higher-earning spouse, or the lower-earning/nesting spouse? Are your kids all grown up and out of the nest? You have to give us more information.

I would say that if no minors are going to get impacted (i.e. your kids all grown up) then do what will give you happiness in this life. However if you are going to lose all your assets and be shackled by lifetime alimony, then I would say think twice about divorce. This latter point will depend a lot on what state you live. If you live in Texas you will be fine; If you live in a man-hating state like Massachusetts, then it's probably way safer to stay married.

Finally, your case is a strong illustration for other people of why no one should get married in the 21st Century. Especially if you are the higher-earner, it's simply a bad decision with all downside, and no upside.

If you've been married for 50 years and everything else is ok, i think you would be a fool to leave. It isn't easy to find someone that is compatible or that you could live with for 50 years. How many years could you have left? Married at 18, together 50 years, you'd have to be at least 68. So you leave you significant other, spend a few years having fun, and spend you remaining years alone. No one you find before you start having medical problems is going to love you enough to stick around to take care of you unless they want all the stuff you have mentioned.

Life is short...very short not to be happy. Here is your answer...when you are old and grey sex will be unimportant. What is important is how compatible you are with your wife. The one who stand besides you is a direction reflection of who you are. As long as every day of your life you are loved by this women and you treat the day like the very first day you saw her....everything will be fantastic. If you do your share and still no sex...then yes divorce because in the end its no fun wishing you had something and now its too late to get. Divorce happens every day, don't be afraid of it....its how you treat the ones you love that counts.

why has sex become such an all-important issue in our society?

love is more important, isn't it?

so the question is...do you truly LOVE your wife?

what if the tables were turned and you couldn't get it up,

or you got penile cancer and had to be castrated. should she

leave you because of a sexless marriage?

if there's a physical cause, people understand. but if there are mental issues, or sex is just not enjoyable, people don't think that holds water.

why would you want to have sex with someone who obviouslly doesn't enjoy it? isn't sex supposed to be mutually enjoyable?

I'd stay the money and everything else is not important but to lose your kids in the process it wouldn't be worth leaving If sex is that important have a very discrete affair

Do you have grand kids? Will you contact with them as well?

No, I am not leaving. This is my house, my neighborhood, my kids. Worst case I would have an affair. But no one has appeared in my life to have it with. So, life goes on... pornomania... All Aboard!

ay-ay-ay... crazy!

edit - ditto what kheserth said, i agree 100%

No.

I'd sleep with someone else, and stay in my house, with my kids and socializing with my friends.

If my partner wants to act like a roommate who co-runs a daycare, then so be it.