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Wife is disinterested in sex, is it cheating if I enjoy porn time once she is asleep?

Long standing issue, no problem with my libido, she was once virile though not any longer.

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  • 1 decade ago
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    Yes it is cheating. You are not looking to her, but at someone else. It is adultery. Have you tried talking with her? Have you tried to go to a therapist? They have sex therapist. Maybe it is a medical problem with her, and she needs to get checked out. Please don't use porn. Be supportive of her. Talk with her, try new things, find out what she likes. If this is a new thing where she is not interested in sex, then maybe she does need to see a medical doctor there could be some underlying issues that need to be addressed so you can have your lady back.

  • 1 decade ago

    Dude i dont know if this is a relationship problem or a physical problem. But u either need to talk find a therapist or a doctor. BUT PORN IS NOT THE ANSWER!!! And yeah no matter what anyone tells you porn is cheating and addictive. You are going to do what you want but dont lie to yourself about it, When you lust in your mind and heart for another person its cheating. Be careful. And remember she loves you.

  • Anonymous
    1 decade ago

    why would you want to look at other naked girls when you have your wife..

    wether its on a computer screen, on a page, or in person..

    that is truly just disguisting, and proves why men are such pigs.

    COMMUNICATION IS KEY

    not doing things behind her back. if you know you have to look at porn while SHE IS SLEEPING,

    than you said it yourself right there, IT IS WRONG.

    you know it would make her upset otherwise you wouldnt have to do it while she is sleeping and unaware, am i right?

    why do something that makes your loved one upset, at any time, in a any way? she could have something going on, maybe it hurts while having sex because she needs to go to the drs and have check ups.

    or maybe she just needs a little break because she wants more than just sex, she wants a real relationship that isnt always going to be based on sex. porn and adultry is the number two leading causes of divorce.... and porn often makes a man long for another lady(s) and than cheats.. porn is also very addictive. you have a beatiful girl you love, but you want to watch porn behind her back?

    something isnt right here. and i think you just need to get over your ways and not be such a sex addict otherwise your lady might end up leaving you. girls can go a while without having sex, and so can men. you just have to have will power, and you have to GROW UP!

    your wife isnt your sex slave waiting on hands and knees everynight.

    so if you want to look at other women naked, then i dont think you should be in any kind of relationship. it obviouslly means you need other women to make you happy.

    oh and a little tip, get over yourself and grow up.

    your not 17 anymore.

    you have a lady who loves you. ask yourself this,

    how would you feel if she was looking at naked men all night while you were sleeping?

    and if you say it wouldnt bother you,

    then i think marrige counsceling needs to fit in somewhere or else you two will not have a healthy relationship that is based upon only the two that is truly in love.

  • Anonymous
    1 decade ago

    Pornography has no place in a marriage. You're actually considering poisoning your mind with pornography rather than working on the problem to fix it? What's wrong with you?

    Get to the bottom of this and find out why she is resisting sex. Sex is fun and great and makes a marriage strong. Don't erode your marriage with porn, that stuff is garbage anyways.

    Porn is one of the leading causes of divorice next to adultery, and guess what promted men to cheat? Porn.

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  • Anonymous
    1 decade ago

    Your wife could be having hormonal issues. Don't give up on your sex life so easily. It is not fare to you that she would expect you to enjoy a sexless marriage. Why should you ?

    Please ask her to see her doctor so that he could run a panel on her to check her hormones (this is a known medical condition that would affect her sexuality and her interest in you).

    Also, consider marital counseling. If she won't go, you should go to learn coping skills and to figure out why a sexless marriage is OK with you.

    As for the porn, I don't know. That is a personal issue.

    Good Luck.

  • 1 decade ago

    No, watching porn is not cheating but sex with your spouse is obviously way better so you should try to have an open conversation with her and figure out what is bothering her.

  • Anonymous
    1 decade ago

    Nah... invite me over Prof so we can enjoy porn time together... matter of fact.. get all the lads around.. I'll bring the Pizza!

    Porn doesn't prompt men to cheat.. taking your husband for granted does.

  • kim h
    Lv 7
    1 decade ago

    Watching a video is not cheating. Some women say it is but I do not agree. She cannot just stop having sex with you and expect you to like it or take it.

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