No sex drive? Normal or not?

Problem is right now your insecurities about sex and inability to handle a relationship is having a huge effect on your personality. Right now you're nice, and, thats about it. Nice and caring doesn't cut it by itself. You need to be confident and willing to take risks for yourself and for her. Once you get this experience I promise your confidence and ability in relationships will be fine.

At this point, you need to do whatever it takes to get that experience to catch up with the rest of us. Don't wait for the first time to be special. It needs to get done and over with so you can get on to the good stuff with somebody who knows what they're doing.

For sexual experience, go clubbing and get your first time over in the back room. Make sure you've got some money in that wallet. Repeat. You need this. *i'm not kidding, either its this or you wait months to find a girl who doesn't care if you're a virgin and gives you a much worse first time and leaves later anyways by breaking up with you or with the relationship naturally ending since at that point you arn't experienced enough to keep a relationship because it was your first time*

For relationships, you'll honestly probably need to find a younger girl *2-3 years* who has little relationship experience or is willing to go with you. It may seem sad but the truth is we all have to start somewhere and you need that experience.

Keep working your way up and don't stop. Do NOT be afraid to make a move while you're on a date. If she didn't want to be with you then she wouldn't have given you a shot. Don't doubt yourself. The main thing is to work on that confidence. When you have experience kissing should be comfortable and casual after like the first 2 dates.

If you find your relationship going nowhere, know when to call it quits and don't beat a dead horse.

Your sex drive is a lot higher when you're in a relationship, so it's probably because you haven't had a girlfriend in a while. I'm sure when you find someone and start making out and stuff you'll get your drive back. But I hear you on the no experience part, how are you supposed to get more experience if they don't give you a chance? Doesn't make sense to me.

Or, you could just be gay.

Ashley's right, see a doctor. My first thought is that you might have an issue with low testosterone, because that would account for two things: 1) your difficulty in achieving an erection, and also, 2) the effect you are having on young women. Wait, hear me out on this.

If your female friends like you and trust you, but none of them would go for you, I'll bet you're sending out subconscious signals that indicate your lack of interest in sex.

One more possibility is your height. 5'6" isn't out of the question for most women (Tom Cruise is 5'6"), but it can be a side effect of low testosterone production.

Find an endocrinologist, a doctor whose specialty is endocrine (hormone) disorders. If your testosterone is low, it can be fixed, and instantly. The down side is that it involves regular shots, but if I were a man with a problem like that, I'd find the courage to get what I needed.

I sure wish you good luck!

Let me tell you what I think about males and females being friends. Males and Females can never be close friends unless either of you want to get close to each other and have something. Now about you not being to masturbate because you thinking too much what would happen if I found someone. You are putting a psychological block in you and you putting your self down. Now all you need to do next time you meet a girl do try to be her buddy try to be her friend and make sure you make her laugh women love that take out to movie dinner a glass of wine and go for it. You'll see that you won't have the need to masturbate anymore.

It could really be anything--physical or emotional. You should talk to your doctor about it and maybe ask to get your testosterone levels checked.

If everything physical comes back ok, maybe you should consider talking to a therapist about it. You sound pretty frustrated about your girl situation and emotional issues can really take a toll on your physical state, especially your sexual health.

And about your female friends, since you asked for honesty...they're just not into you like that. It's great that you can be such a good friend to all of them, but you should leave it at that. If you've really approached all of them about being in a relationship, you're coming off as desperate. And no girl wants to be with a guy who will be with any girl--she wants to know that she's special. So wait for one special girl and then pursue her like crazy!

Go to see a doctor. Just make sure that you don't have a thyroid issue or anything... If not, then just roll with the punches. If you don't want to get laid, hey... You're one of the decent guys that a girl could actually trust in a relationship to not just be after booty...

You've matured and because you've never had a girlfriend even at the time when your hormones were going crazy, they don't know what they're missing so they see no reason to start now or anytime later. What you need to do is go to a strip club get a lap dance and your hormones will live again!

If you have no sex drive with women, maybe you're gay? Nothing wrong with that...

Maybe you just aren't attracted to females?

Perhaps...