how do i stop being so hard on myself?

It's a nasty spiral, you get angry and upset because you did something wrong, you do it wrong because you are angry and upset with yourself and than your angry with yourself for being so angry with yourself. Break the circle as soon as you can, you have made a very good start by recognising what you are doing and wanting it to stop. I know what you're talking about and I am not as bad as I used to be but I sometimes get in moods where I still think negative about myself non-stop. I'm getting better by time and so could you. Think positive, so something went wrong again, you're still here, the world hasn't ended. Try to see that other people make mistakes too and that you might just think you make more because you are so focused on what goes wrong rather than things that go perfectly fine. When something goes wrong or you're thinking about something you dislike about yourself, stop yourself and remind yourself of everything that went well and find positive things about yourself. Compliment yourself for trying to get out of this negativity. It takes strong character to admit your flaws. Keep your chin up.

this is something my pepere told me when i was struggling my first year, "you are never the best until you were the worst." the thing is its okay to be hard on yourself, but not all the time. save your tantrums for big things. if you strike out in the 2nd innning, big deal, who cares, youll get at least 2 more chances. but if its bot 9th, game tied and you strike out with the bases loaded, then feel free to let the emotion run out. idk why i said that, that didnt really help but w.e. i dont really know if there are drills or anything to help you not be so hard on yourself, but maybe you should be hard on yourself earlier. dont get mad and hard on strike 3, try it on a strike 1 or even strike 2, and then take it on the baseball. slam that baseball, because the more pissed you are at the ball, the better contact you will make. and i think that other person was write, i think you misunderstood derek jeter. but hes a good rolemodel if your heading that way

I know exactly how that is. I used to do that to myself as well.

If you can't stop this...then after it happens, tell yourself (I'm sorry, I didn't mean to say that, I love). Say that eachtime you do this, but really mean it. And I know this won't be hard for you, because you seem determined now to help yourself. More and more, show yourself love. Tell yourself you love yourself, and mean it. Feel the love...

You have a problem and its like you don't love yourself thats all. You can't think that you are stupid you have to love yourself even if you think you make stupid minor mistakes

is it bad that you do that? i do that all the time to myself, but i deserve it. haha. i once went to the store 5 times in one day, each time i was only going to get a loaf of bread. 5 times i came home with a sack of groceries and no bread. lol I'm horrible.

Give yourself compliments when you do something good, like help someone out with something or ace a test.

Try to look for positives about yourself instead of the negatives.

I have that too..

Just think to yourself..

"I'm only human, I make mistakes, it's only natural.."

Don't keep on thinking about it.. just move on and think about the positive things that you do.v

Try Yoga.

I know that might sound stupid but it never hurts to try.

I would like to administer pain diversion. I can literally beat you down so you don't have to do it to yourself. You first *** kicking will be free of charge.