I need "adult" advice for a "sticky" situation.?

I can see why you'd be hesitant, but it's not the norm and not easy for a guy to urinate when "aroused".

I wouldn't be concerned that it would be a common issue or that most men would find it appealing. I do believe you should feel free to pleasure your male partner in that way without fear of something unpleasant repeating itself...however if you are quite concerned, tell him what occured in the past and that fear of such occuring again has caused you to be reluctant to perform that act. He should be able to reassure you that there is nothing to worry about.

Do your brother and his wife love each other? If so, they're child was conceived in love. Your brother and his wife were taken by surprise and are under stress. They should be able to give up something to afford this child. A lot of couples that adopt are not well off. I visited the other day with a lady that bought all her new adopted child's clothes at garage sales. Your brother needs a wake up call. You need to remind him that this may be the most wonderful experience of his life. When my children were born, my husband was in seventh heaven. He even went shopping for her and he hates shopping. A man just doesn't always get it until the babe arrives. Once her belly starts to grow and they can feel it move and listen to its heart beat. And he may not connect till he sees his own flesh and blood. Too stubborn and to much pride not to receive gifts from others. Your brother sounds a little immature. This is your business you are family. This is about your brother, sisterinlaw and your niece or nephew. Maybe give him a few phone calls out of support. Let him know that you are there for him. Allow him to vent and gradually give him the advise when he seems ready for it.

It's ******* like that that make women not want to suck or swallow for the rest of us. You are a good woman for at least wanting to please. I didn't think any woman did that once they were married. You should probably talk to your current man about what happened & I'm sure he'll find a way to put your mind at ease. If your dating a nice guy you won't have anything to worry about, then again nice guys don't get bj's.lol

I just can't believe your HUSBAND pee'd in your mouth with no warning. As a man I can tell you , that a guy has to concentrate really hard to do that during any kind of sex. What an idiot weirdo.

I've never heard of an incident like this before and I'm sure that it is as isolated as say winning the Eurolottery. You were simply unlucky to have an idiot for a husband. I cannot see how any man could do that by accident, let alone with decent intent. Put the whole thing behind you and begin to enjoy your sex again.

My advice would be to tell your lover what happened with your ex-husband and that your not quite ready to give oral

trust me if someone urinated in my mouth i'd be in the same slump

also try to find out what he likes,what his deepest fantasies are

try positions that you've never tried before

don't be afraid to switch it up every now and then

and cook some of his favorite foods for him once in while

(men love food so you can't go wrong)

good luck,be safe and congrats on your childbirth

p.s. your ex-husband is a wierdo for peeing in your mouth without any warning

How immature and insensitive of your ex to do such a thing. As for your new significant other, talk with him about it and let him know your feelings. If he is patient and considerate, he will give you all the time you need. There are many ways to pleasure someone without doing something you feel uncomfortable doing.

talk to him about it. Keep in mind that every man is different and i am hoping this man is in no way like your ex. Start with just a minute or two to get things going and build up from there. If you don't want to finish him then just have sex.

Wow divorced huh? I think violence would have removed the need for divorce had my significant other done that to me.. I say give it your best shot and try not to hold the transgressions of your ex against your current interest.

dont let no one piss in your mouth that is very disrespectful and disgusting.if you want to be respected then put your foot down...now this new guy dont let him know the way you were he gona think u a slut

that's so disrespectful i doubt you'll ever find another man who is so uncouth. a woman who actually knows what she's doing is pretty rare and to ruin it w/ stupidity is really a lorena bobbit offense.