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Do men have romantic / sexual feelings for all of their female friends?
I know that the question makes all men sound like they do not have dynamic personalities, but lately my fiance has been saying he can just 'sense' that some of my male friends have things for me. I kind of thought that was peculiar, because I could never even tell that they even had interest in me. At all. At least not in that way ...
So, I ask, do all men have things for their female friends?
My fiance has one kind of close female friend even, and he admits that he used to like her, but swears up and down that he doesn't anymore. Is THAT even possible, or will there always be 'lingering' feelings?
11 Answers
- 1 decade ago
I would like to quote Chris Rock on this subject: "Men don't have female friends, those are just girls he hasn't been able to f--- yet". Which being a guy I agree, probably in other words :) but most of us when we think of a friend, we think of a guy (or sometimes it could be a girl but like a tomboy which makes her part of the "guys"), but for regular girls it's usually someone you had/have an interest in and just hasn't happened or it will never happen and you end up in the "friend zone".
Why don't we have real female friends? Personally I think it's because they are high maintenance, with guys you can spend like 2 years without seeing each other, then meet and just a "What's up?" would get you caught up and ready to watch the game or wathever.
Women as friends require a lot more work and effort, and then again, when you have a girlfriend/wife you rather stay away from other girls because even if they are really truly your friends, your girl will see most of them as enemies trying to steal her man.
I could keep going... and going... Point is, if he says he doesn't feel anything for her anymore, it's probably not accurate. He might still feel something, BUT (and I can't stress this enough) he's already closed that door, for you (or for other reason) and won't act on it. Otherwise he wouldn't have told you that he had something for her, he would've just told you that she was a regular friend.
Source(s): Experience - 1 decade ago
Umm no not all men (speaking for myself) have romantic feelings for there female friends HOWEVER no man trusts another man around his woman. We have are protective nature you are my woman and that man is looking to take you from me, it might as well be stapled to are foreheads.
As for the second part of your question I am in this same boat on both parts actually. I have a female friend who I use to like but I no longer like there are no lingering feelings no what if questions no nothing it happens most guys do that we are visual people we see something we like it however (sorry to all women out there for the next example) when you get a Lexus you don't think what would have been with that dodge stratus he loves you and if that is true there is a woman out there that will make him turn away from you.
- Anonymous5 years ago
when guys tell you that they can like a girl as a friend and want to sleep with her, that generally means all they want is sex. these guys are not interested in relationships. guys have girlfriend feelings towards girls when they are in a long-term relationships which they can see going somewhere. I say long-term because even in short-term relationships many guys don't have romantic feelings towards their girlfriends. I know this doesn't sound right and it may seem sexist but guys only have romantic feelings towards a girl and the only girl they are 100% committed to, and that is very rare to find. Beware, some guys may feed you romantic feelings just to get you into bed, no matter how long the relationship has been. I'm a guy btw. But not a jerk lol
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- 1 decade ago
The idea of a good girlfriend, to many guys, is a friend they happen to be very attracted to. So yes, what your fiance says makes some sense. However, especially when you get as far as marriage, there are usually other aspects of a person's personality that become important. Chemistry, if you will.
Most guys aren't really in-tune enough to sense this at first, so it may take some time to sort love out from crushes/interest. If your fiance says he's over the girl, I would be inclined to believe him.
- Anonymous1 decade ago
Well not all men do but most. Some guys feel it's sexier to think a girl that is taken is hot. It kind of makes them feel "bad ***" don't worry about it. Yes if a guy has liked someone once before that doesn't change he might not like her like her but when he sees her he is probably still attracted to her. Good luck
Source(s): relationship counselor - nuclearbroodsLv 61 decade ago
Yes and No to both because there are a lot factors consider.
In your situation his friends most likely find you attractive.
- Anonymous1 decade ago
can't say ALL men about anything, but if u r attractive, most of his homeboys would probably bang u given the chance...a typical strategy (for men and women) is to be a 'friend' and bide their time until you have a rocky place in your marriage so you can turn to your 'friend' for comfort.
- 1 decade ago
I think that there will always be lingering feelings with someone like that but its all up to whether or not the person has any self control to not get into poor situations with that person
- 1 decade ago
well we dont have feelings for all our female friends it just depends upon if they are their type or not
it is possible that he still has feelings for her but it is also possible that he doesnt all i can say is you will have to trust him
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