How to cure bad anxiety in social settings?

its ok to be shy or not feel in the social mood but its not really important what other people think you shouldnt care so much. most likely you will never see them again in your entire life. there are billions of people in the entire world you cant please, agree, or even care what all of them think. if there was a new law that passed and it said everyone will get 1 million dollars there would someone who would still complain and be unhappy about it. dont worry what anyone thinks about you. just be confident and happy with who you are.

my grandpa use to say

what business of it is yours? of what other people think

its a little bit of a tongue twister but its a good saying lol

just remember other people and there thoughts about you dont define you, be proud of yourself and dont worry.

I've tried many antidepressants to help my anxiety disorder, but the only one I've found to work for me is Paxil. I've also been taking Xanax when needed but the Paxil keeps me from having panic attacks on a day to day basis. All medication will make you sleepy in the beginning, once your body adjusts to the medication (2-4 weeks) you will begin to feel better about the side effects. All people are different in what they can tolerate and what works for you may not work for the next person. I recommend you talk to a psychologist (not a psychiatrist) and they can try different medications for you. Lexapro is supposedly one of the best for social anxiety although it didn't work for me, it may work for you.

Like Diamond said - believe in yourself.

Here is something that might help. When you get up in the morning, take a deep breath, look in the mirror, and use self actualization techniques. Say things like - I am a good person, I want to be able to socialize with people and have good conversations. Today I will do something that will help me reach that goal.

Also, it might be helpful if you saw a school counselor.

What you are experiencing (believe it or not) is pretty normal for a teen.

Also, try if possible, to spend less time on the computer and doing video games and watching TV. I think it rots your brain, and keeps you from forming much needed social skills.

Go the the library and get some books on these subjects: shyness, speaking in front of groups, socialization of teenagers, etc. Just look up all kinds of stuff.

Talk to the librarian and tell them what you are interested in. If too shy, tell them you are wring a paper on teenagers and the day to day problems of existing on this planet as a teen.

Good Luck.

You have social anxiety disorder. You need to talk to a doctor about it. They'll figure out what's best for you.. medication/therapy/both. Make an appointment with your doc and make sure you tell them what triggers your anxiety and be detailed like you were here. You'll get better with help =)

i suffered with the exact same thing until age 30! - life was complete hell, and it got *worse* over the years - it seemed the *more* i was in those situations, the worse the panic attacks in social situations got - and no amount of practicing, counseling, therapy, breathing exercises, etc helped in the least (to top things off, i'm not even "shy" - i'm actually a *very* outgoing person - go figure).

my doc prescribed me virtually every single antidepressant, anticonvulsant and benzodiazepine (all of which are commonly used to treat social anxiety and panic disorder) over a several year period - NOTHING worked...even *extremely high* dosages of potent drugs like Xanax had no effect (except making me extremely drowsy - but i'd still have the anxiety no matter what!).

then one day, i read something about *stimulants* being effective - the same type used for those with ADD or narcolepsy. i thought this was impossible - how could something that is going to "speed me up", actually make me CALM? - after all, even *caffeine* makes me shaky as hell! -

but my condition had gotten so bad, i decided to try it - and boy am i glad i did! - within 45 minutes of my very *first* LOW dose of Adderall (10mgs), i was instantly "cured"! i went from not being able to even walk down my own street or go grocery shopping by myself (for fear of running into someone i knew and having to make small-talk), to speaking before a group of 500, less than a week later!

oh, and despite any horror stories you may hear, Adderall is NOT addictive or dangerous - unless it is *abused*, that is...it's now over 5yrs later, and that same low dose of Adderall is just as effective as it was that very first day.

good luck. :)

Its possible that it could be " Social Anxiety Disorder ". My wife had that disorder and she was the same way. She couldnt talk to people at all and she felt wierd in public places. She ended up going to the doctor to get medication to help with the disorder. It's really no big deal, but you do have social anxiety, you should have it treated while your still young.

Hi there, I just laugh about my past 3 years of panic now. I was not able to go anywhere without carrying xanax. Fear of having another attack was the most important subject of my days.When i first found joe barry's web site i started to cry because of my happiness.

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Don't feel bad it happens to alot of peaple just most don't admitt it.Because your your younger I would not suggest this but Ecstasy has been know to diminish those thoughts of anxiety and worry.For now I would focas on not what other peaple are thinking and try to have fun with the presentation you might be giving because if you seem to be having fun with it they we'll get interested also.Trust me

You're younger than me but I know what you mean. I don't speak to people. I never ask for help. F*ck up things I say. Try to say things w/ the least amount of words to get it over w/. Never had the palm sweat or dizzyness. Mostly just regular armpit sweat and feeling so dumb.

You can but books about how to talk to people. Larry King has one. We're just a different breed probably.

GL?

This is normal in early teenage years and you really do learn to grow out of it, So the best cure is time and a busy social life. (its all about experience.)

The only other cure is beer, Which is only recommended to 18 year olds and over.