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"This girl is 27, I'm 21. me and this girl seemed like we started getting feelings for eachother over the past month or so, and we see eachother every sunday. Each sunday we see eachother, it seems like our "sexual tension" keep rising. All we really do is touch eachother and flirt/look in eachothers eyes, etc. I've known her my whole life, so it's kind of weird. We've gone to the beach, went running together at her house, she pantsed me, wiped boob sweat on me, everything you can pretty much imagine (in a humorous way)... I told her I liked her through a FB message and she never responded like 2-3 weeks ago. But when I saw her after I sent the message, she seemed a lot more interested in me. She started wearing earrings when I see her, she touched me more, flirted more, etc.. I made plans with her last week and she kinda blew me off, but I talked to her about it and she said she had a lot of things going on and she was almost like crying because shes so stressed with her job..She asked me the week after about this picture of me kissing another girl on my facebook on the cheek, curiously and looked away/smiled. Then after we went outside, she said "i think your parents want us to get married" etc etc...I was still confused as to if she liked me or not, so I talked to her about it last sunday. I brought her outside and I told her I didnt want her to get bad impression about me, thinking that I go around hooking up with mad girls (cause of most of my pics) and I looked her in the eyes and I told her I am not that kind of guy, etc etc...and I told her that everything I said in that message was completely true, and that I really do like her. She said "I like you too", and smiled. and she said but dont you think its weird because she dated my cousin (10 years ago) and my Uncle liked her too like 9 years ago. Then we started walking back and she mention'd to me about not fooling around with any guys in a long time. She's been single for 3years, had her heart broken 4 times. After we told eachother, we walked inside my church (where there was a bunch of people) and she looks at me and starts putting on some type of lip gloss right in front of me, and she asks if she can put some on my lip..so I let her? I didnt wasnt thinking about kissing at that time, i was more signed of relief, I never had an opportunity after that anyways. we went out to eat, talked the whole way there about everything. When we sat down we kept looking at eachother at times, flirted, ate the same food, took a pic together lol...and held my arm once or twice with both of her hands and put her head near my shoulder. She showed me near her neck, right under the back of her hair to show me her actual hair color? then i had some girl text me from my church asking what was up, etc, etc. The girl I was with wanted to know what she was saying, and said that she was going to ask me out, etc etc..The girl I was with "flirting"..only seems to call me when she feels like it, she usually doesnt make plans with me (but we see eachother every sunday)...I havent called/texted her once since we talked about it (last week)..so do you think I should keep doing what I am doing til she calls/attempts to make plans with me? should I cut off all communication with her until she says something to me? give me your thoughts."

Update:

I just told her I liked her, but I am actually crazy about her!

Update 2:

lol no, she was with my cousin literally like 12 years ago, and he lives in virginia now. My Uncle liked her about 10 years ago, but she wasnt interested in him

Suzie B · Accepted Answer

Make sure she knows you REALLY like her. The whole family thing was a while ago, and if they don't live by you... Then there is for sure no problem. You really like her, and you shouldn't just let the past with your cousin and uncle get in the way of you two. She seems like she really likes you too. Just leave a message on her phone asking why she hasn't called... Give her a bit of the guilt trip that you miss her and wanna see her and that you are really into her. If you leave her a sweet, caring message, I'm positive she'll call back and try to make plans with you. Girls love it when a guy is sweet and misses them. I know I really love when a guy is sweet to me. Tee hee. But anyways, I think you should do that, and then possibly go for it with her.

Zachary · Answer

shes interested but insecure about the future since she has been screwed over so many times before; basically, shes not going to let you think you have the upper hand so she can still feel in control of the situation, just keep doing what your doing and be subtle about letting her know that your not going to let her down ( only if you really mean that ), other than that you might try sitting down with her after a date or something like that and have a conversation about if you guys want to get exclusive. i honestly don't know her but that's the route ive taken and its worked so i hope it works for you too!

best of luck

Daniebee · Answer

From a girls perspective it sounds like shes playing games with you. If you both said that you liked each other why arent you all playing in the sack already.? She obviously wants you to just fall all over her and do all the work. You can a: do the hard work or b: wait till shes desperate for you and come do it herself. When you see her this sunday...say whats up and keep it moving-if she really wants you trust me she will find someway to come up to talk with you. Its girl games #1-play hard to get

crippled donkey style · Answer

Is this for real? She's been involved with 2 of your family members. Unless you are from West Virginia, that's just not allowed. Use the tension to have some really good sex with her then drop her like a bad habit.

Anonymous · Answer

Honestly dude, I say you tell her how you really feel. Stop hiding it from her and just tell her. She will appreciate the honesty, and it should be good. Don't cut off all communications with her, but limit them. And if you really like her, wait a little. But don't be like me and wait forever. Wait a month and see what happens, if nothing, then move on. Hope I help.

lscountrygurl · Answer

Ummm, WOW,,, 
just ask her how she feels... (or)
make a more romantic setting. Like picnic on the beach under the stars after sunset? Very romantic, but could be casual if you dont wanna make it too obvious.

Antonio · Answer

Hey man i would say let her go.
She wants you to keep hitting on her.
But you gotta be a man a just let her hit you up.
Cus shes gonna keep playing with you.
So i hope i helped and maybe she will like you if act like you don't like her much.

? · Answer

it kind of seems like you may be back up or she may b using u she could like another guy and is using you to make him jealous or it could be compleatly different

she could be playing hard to get to see if you like her enought to chase her id say try chasing her if she reacts well then keep going if she trys to distance herself from you more thn lay off good luck!!

-sarah

Tina · Answer

keep it going! she's probably not sure whether you like we so she's keeping her distance. on Sunday give her a cute little present like a teddy bear or something. it'll drive her crazy.

Anonymous · Answer

tell her how you actually feel !
i love when guys can show their feelings, and ask her to take a picture and put it on fb

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Thoughts on this please? (sorry it's kinda long, I love you if you leave feedback!)?

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