Am I being too conservative with my 14 year old daughter?

Well sir, i come from a different nationality and culture of yours, and i know the cultural differences always do make problems but i'll say my opinion.

I believe you are doing a great job keeping your daughter from fooling around or messing around with that 'boy friend' of hers especially that she's really young -14 years- and you don't want your daughter to 'get laid' with some guy whom you know nothing about and then get 'knocked' and get pregenant.That won't be very cozy will it??

Remember sir you are a father!! a father has the responsibility to be the leader and the guide for his family and your daughter should know you are doing this for her sake not to live a tragedy of being a young mother and am sure you know of loads and loads of such pattern which in my opinion is disgusting!!

Being conservative doesn't diminish or reduce from your self-respect,your daughter should be thankful and honored to have such a protective,loving and caring father.

One last tip,we have a saying it says "Who's is older than you by one day,knows better than you by a year" don't let your daughter fall in the same mistake like tons of other girls whose fathers chose not to intervene with their lives when they are at stake.

Best wishes.

I think once a week during the summer is too strict. Let her enjoy not having school work hanging over her head and go hang out more. I think if his parents or an older sibling are home then she should be able to go to his house. You have to show that you trust her to make responsible choices (like hanging out in her boyfriends room and not having sex).

A a rule of thumb make sure she has a cell phone with her, and set a curfew of nine or ten o' clock for her to be home.

My parents were just like you only letting me go out once a week. But worse, they would plan the day for me and it almost always going for a hike (and I really hate hiking). If they ever let me go to a friend's house they would drive by the house two or three times to make sure we hadn't left. And if I were even a few minutes late home, they would interrogate about where I had been and why I was "so late." I lost friends because they and their parents felt like my parents didn't trust them and it was to much of a pain in the butt to try and make plans with me.

You sound like you're half way there already, just don't go over board with rules. I'm 17 now and I still feel like my parents went wayy over board with me.

When I was her age my parents did the exact same thing (though they did let me go to other friends houses with a bunch of friends where my boyfriend would be to hang out (not to party)) and I thought it was unfair then but now that I am older I see that they did the right thing. Way to many kids are trying to be older to fast! You are doing a great job keep it up!

I think that Once a week is a little over protective, But about the public places I agree.

No you are doing the right thing. She is 14 she doesn't need to be spending a lot of time with her boyfriend.There are more important things for her to be doing. That being said if she is at home one weekends and not studying or doing chores maybe you could suggest he comes over to your house so you can get to know him too?

I would let her go out twice a week..like maybe one afternoon after school to the mall and then one day on the weekend to the movies or something! you don't want to shield her to much because then she will be trying to lie and sneak out! so i would give her a little bit more freedom UNTIL she shows you other wise.

when i was 14 i hated the fact my father controled my every move, including boys. i was very lucky to go to a movie and get picked up by my mother. i feel that as long as she has a phone, you call or txt it, you'll be ok. you'll beable to tell if she is lying on where she is or not, trust me............ as far as boys, they need to experiment and figure out the opposite sex, but with caution. you're not being unfair. if my father never guided me and let me do certain things, then id be a lot different. i am greatful he was there and such a "hard ***" at times. :)

It sounds like your being a good parent. It seems like you really care about your daughter, and she will thank you later. Your so much better than the other mothers who could care less of their daughters become little underage whores.

You're being great. My parent's won't let me go out with my boyfriend even in a public place without a chaperone.

I just turned 19 and my parents were the same way. I thought it was soooo unfair back then, but now that I am older and more mature, I am so thankful my parents were that way. It kept me closer to my family as well as kept me honest about where I was going and with who. Good luck :)