i am paralized and in a wheel chair how will if find the right guy?

Dont feel like that sweetheart, you'll never be a burden to anyone.

When a guy loves a girl, he'd do anything for her, and you sound like such an incredible girl that it'd only be a matter of time before some lucky guy sees the beautiful, smart, grown up person you are.

No matter what you can or cant do anymore, you're still the same wonderful person inside, and thats what someone's going to fall in love with, you, not what you can do.

I beleive everyone has one person out there they were always meant to be with, and for me, I was lucky enough to find mine.

Unfortunately, that didnt work out, but I did, and still do love her so much for the person that she is, that it really wouldn't matter if she was in a wheelchair or anything, she's still the girl I was meant to love, no matter what body she's inside, and I would, and will love her till the day I die, regardless of anything.

When you find the guy you were meant to be with, nothing else will matter to him than the fact that he's met the girl he was supposed to spend his whole life with, it wont be any great inconvinience for him to help you reach things off the top shelf in the grocery store when it means he gets to wake up every morning next to his soul mate and the love of his life.

In the face of true love, nothing else matters, as long as you've got eachother.

Sex isn't so important to guys when they get older, guys around your age, its all they think about, but when guys start thinking a little more maturely about it, then its not the be all and end all of everything.

There are plenty of other ways to share intimacy other than sex, there are plenty of other things you can do to express your love for eachother.

And seeing as my relationship I was in with the love of my life was a non-sexual one, I can honestly say that the greatest levels of intimacy and closeness can be reached without even having to get naked, so long as you love the person.

And you could adopt children, or use a surrogate mother, or who knows in this day and age, but there'll be ways for you to have children when the time comes.

You've gotta understand too, that guys are naturally providers, its in our instinct to want to do things for the girl we love and it makes us feel good, its not like a chore or anything, we love the chance to make life easier for the girl we love, so when you find your guy, I'm absolutely positive that he wont mind helping you however you need, not even the tiniest bit.

As for meeting guys, all you need to do is be confident and upbeat, which you already seem to be, much more so that anyone else I know would be in your position.

There's nothing different to a decent guy about a girl in a wheelchair if she has the right attitude, which you do.

As long as your positive, which you are, and dont let it hold you back, then guys will see right past it.

People in wheelchairs often go through life acting like a victim, and you have every right to because its awful whats happened to you, but its really admirable to see the people that rise above their bad luck and live full, fun lives none the less, and you seem every bit smart, positive, bright and bubbly enough to do it :)

Dont ever give up on yourself sweetheart, dont ever think you dont have a chance, you're still the same beautiful girl you always were and no accident can ever take that away from you.

xoxox

I am very glad you are grateful to be alive many people are bitter and should look up to you for having that spirit I know Im looking up to you right now even if your 5 years younger then me.

Have you been checked to see if you could still have children? There was this women who didn't have legs and would actually use a skateboard to get along with her life she had a child and would care for the baby

http://www.mymultiplesclerosis.co.uk/misc/rosesigg...

it still might be possible for you!

I know life is going to be different for you but when you find the right guy it won't matter to him so do not stress over it hun

I knew a girl in a wheel chair she was very happy with her life and Im sure right now she has someone I haven't seen her but she was an easy going girl and had no problems with it.

I really do hope you find the right guy and you can move forward with your life best you can

Whatever guy ends up with you would WANT to be with you, and so there would be nothing to feel bad about concerning his situation...

ALL relationships require a certain amount of sacrifice on BOTH people's parts...plus...

Although your paralysis may be a permanent spinal injury that seems unchangeable right now, you're young, and you will heal and recover some functions that seem impossible right now, especially with medical science advancing the way it is, your present state will change with time, and so will your mental state...

A positive attitude will help your injured body AS WELL as all those around you who love you...

You'll be okay, Girl. Things will change for the better. Right now, this is your chance to be a hero for yourself and your whole family by not only "enduring" your disability, but finding a creative way to get something good out of it. You could devote some time to helping others in your situation, and develop hobbies (like playing the guitar) and write songs that illuminate your spirit...

All I can say is have faith that there is a plan for you. No matter what your religion is. Yes it will be hard to find a guy, so maybe you dont have to find one becuz he'll find you. You guyz will just have to work at it. Your only 14 now, give it some time, alot of time actually :) I dont know where u live but I worked at an awesome summer camp in southampton ny where alot of kidz your age who are also in wheel chairz hang out and they fall in looooooooooove lol. You can stay all summer, maybe look it up for the 3rd session or next summer. You can go until your 18 or 19 yrz old.

Not to be the jerk here, but are you paralyzed from the neck down or waist down? There is a difference because I highly doubt if you are paralyzed from the neck down that you could have the ability to be typing on a computer right now. I know paraplegics and that condition is the most serious of all paralysis.

Again not to be a jerk, but I was just curious. Anyways, even if you are paralyzed you are every bit as worthy as the rest of us to find a relationship and even if it seems like the end of the world now it is not. If you are paralyzed from the waist down there is still a chance of recovery with loads of pt. If this isn't the paralysis you have do not fret cause you are still able to find a guy for you.

Being the history buff that I am. I know a lot about historical figures. I am not sure if you heard of her, but Frida Kahlo Rivera. A Mexican revolutionary and artist (painter) was married to Diego Rivera who is perhaps the most well known painter of the N. American continent. Anyways, she suffered a debilitating bus injury early into her 20's. It was believed that she would never walk again and would be paralyzed forever. She was able to regain mobility and could walk. Although, that injury remained with her forever in life because she was always the guinea pig to many quirky experiments to see if she could regain the ability to walk again. It messed her up and her condition worsened as she grew older even though she could walk. She lost the ability to birth children. However, that was then in the 1920's-1930's. Imagine with the advances in science of today how much easy it would be to regain the ability to walk if you are not fully paralyzed. Also she found Diego Rivera and they were married for life and both of them were highly promiscuous and had multiple partners as they cheated on each other, but oddly enough with all that cheating going on w. both of them they stayed together forever and regarded themselves as soul mates.

I was in a car accident and though not in a wheelchair I could barely walk for three years so these things went through my mind also.

You will find love and you will know he loves you for YOU! Of course you're not a jerk for caring about your future. You sound like a very sensible and sweet young lady.

There are many ways to show your love for one another. You will work that out.

I'm so sorry this happened to you and so young. I pray for you a wonderful, full, happy life filled with more love than you could have ever dreamed for yourself.x.

Girl as long as you have a radiant personality,smarts, and humor you can get any guy you want!!! and i am so sorry about your accident.....and don't say things like "..but i would legitimately feel bad for what ever guy would end up being with me". Because that's not true at all...whenever the right guy comes along and he truly loves you then he would go to the ends of this world to take care of you and help you out!!!

I'm kind of surprised you're worrying about this at 14, you're deeper than I was at that point in my life. Anyway, I've known numerous people restricted to wheel chairs that found loving partners. Yes, it might require more work from the guy you date, and yes, he'll need to make sacrifices, but someone will think it's all worth it in order to be with you. You could even consider dating a guy in a similar situation, there's numerous dating websites designed for handicapped people.

Your Not alone. There are tons of people in this world who are in your situation or in a worse situation and still meet people. Cherish the fact that you are alive,and don't worry about dating right now. Once you get older I'm sure the right guy will come along who cares about you and has the same interests and will love you for you.I promise he is out there. But for now,Cherish your life. And don't worry about the future.

You're not a jerk because you're feeling bad for yourself you're not even a jerk. You have the right to worry about this because there are alot of idoits who won't accept you for who you are. Just listen and trust me, you'll find that one person, you'll find him, you're fourteen, you're still a kid, don't worry about it now. And you know you think you won't get over you're husband that life would be so much easier for him with a girl who can walk, you shouldn't feel like that because he loves you so much, that he will risk everything he has ever had, just to be with you, and he will love you. Don't feel bad. He's out there. And you'll find him unexpectly.