female hitting male & male hitting back.....?

if you hit him expect your *** to get hit back. first you want us to hold the door open for you and pay for your meals. then you wanna hit us.

This is going to sound horribly sexist on so many levels, but what the hell, here goes.

First of all, a woman has no reason to hit a man (unless it was clear self defense). Just because she is a female does not mean this doesn't qualify as physical abuse. However, I do not agree that the man should hit her back unless he feels like his safety or life is in danger. If the woman hits him once for saying or doing something and he feels like his honor/dignity has been compromised, this is not ample reasoning to reciprocate the hit. But I think this rule applies to woman who has just been hit once by a man for saying or doing something he didn't approve of. The proper response is to go to the police, not further the abuse.

It really does not have to do with the man being more dominant than the female (and therefore not having the right to hit). Although, there is a certain unspoken law of chivalry/gentlemanly courteousness that makes the returned slap of the male to the female more forbidden and scandalous. The woman slapped may be an awful person, but slapping one female is like slapping the entire gender across the face. Sad, but a true fact of our society. Not that one slap to a woman would cause a man to begin disrespecting every female he met, perse, but that's the perceived effect.

Basically, if one's life is in danger, one is allowed to practice self-defense, be it male or female. In any other setting, physical abuse is unacceptable.

Everyone has the right to defend themselves if they feel like they will suffer serious injury if they don't. However, self defense should be about stopping the assault. Not causing equal or more bodily injury to the assailant. No woman or man or person or child should hit or slap another person. Please don't stereotype all women by commenting that "women feel that is ok to slap us when they are mad". Not all women or people are the same and not all women share this point of view. Women do want to be treated equally regarding matters such as gender roles, employment, physical endurance. Women's struggle for equality does not include the need or want to be hit or slapped like a man. Most men are physically stronger than most women. A man could inflict a much harder blow and cause more damage to a woman's smaller frame, weaker muscles and smaller bones. What you are referring to here is human behavior. Behavior is taught. And sometimes people act in surprising ways when they are mentally or emotionally overcome. You are right in one respect...people should treat others as they themselves would like to be treated. People should find different ways to sort out problems or handle arguments, but no one is perfect.

I'm of the opinion that a girl who hits a guy that won't hit a woman is some of the lowest scum on the earth. That's like talking trash about men who won't allow trash to be talked about women. Ungrateful.

I don't hit men (well, I hit my brother, and he hits me, but we and everyone else know that we're just playing and we wouldn't really hurt each other for the world). I know how and where to hit a man if I need to, but I wouldn't do it unless I felt threatened or was being attacked. And if that was the situation, I fully expect him to hit back (which is why I'm prepared to make that first hit count).

But no, I don't hit men/guys/boys just for the sake of hitting them. I think it's stupid, and I think that if you have to resort to that to get your point across then you need some serious work on your communication skills.

Men should not hit women. I personally don't think it should ever be done. They are bigger than we are, and they can stop us from hitting them without causing us much pain. But if they do hit the woman who first hit them, then the woman deserved it.

I guess I'm tryin' to say that I think better of men who don't hit women even if they're provoked, but I don't think terrible things about the ones that strike back.

Personally I don't think that that is very respectful of either person. How can a relationship work if one partner is hitting the other. I know how you feel though.. sometimes I get so mad when we are in a fight that I feel like smacking him in the face... I just have to remember to use self control and not lose my temper as much...

If you feel you have the right to hit him, then he sure as hell has the right to hit you back.

I think a slap across the face in the heat of an argument doesn't deserve to get hit back, BUT if a female starts swinging on a guy with a closed fist like a dude she deserves to get hit like a dude...my opinion. I too would never start swinging on a guy unless I was ready to start fighting him.

You know what else women are always blabbing about equal rights...well...then we should be treated equal! I know if a guy starts swinging on another guy he's gonna whoop his ***, why should it be different because it's a girl.

well women are normally not as strong as men biologically so if a man hits a woman that just seems kind of lame to me BUT I do agree with you. I think the whole thing is stupid. Women can hit men when they're mad and it's ok but when a man hits a women omg, he's awful, throw him in jail, he's a wife beater. Whatever. I would never hit my boyfriend in anger just like I know he wouldn't hit me. It's the same thing, except i would be hurting and he wouldn't lol.

I honestly feel sorry 4 the guys, when they can't hit back, but it's still wrong. The only time I would hit a guy though, were if I were being badly tortured or something. I wouldn't just slap/punch a guy for no reason whatsoever, like a lot of really bitchy girls do. Many guys do hit back, but I really respect the ones, who fight the urge and don't.

When a guy hits a girl it is a immediate red flag for anyone. Girls should always be prepared for all dangers that relate to violence. Some girls expect guys to not hit them back sometimes because sometimes they never thought that the guy they know would hit her back. But we all have to be very careful with everything we do with our relationships. Today it might be an argument, tomorrow it might be a the first hit. That's why guys should always be dumped asap when hitting their girlfriends for the first time and definitely beyond.

i definitely agree with you. if you're gonna throw the first punch, don't think it's a freebie. Equal Rights=Equal Fights. It's claimed men are stronger, I work in security and I can assure you this is not always the case there are a lot of stronger women out there. An eye for an eye is the general rule, but remember Ghandi, and eye for an eye will leave us all blind, so just don't hit anyone alright?

If a woman hits a man then he should assume a defensive position to deflect her blows and protect himself but not hit back. Only under threat of real bodily harm should he hit back. For example, if she has a knife then all bets are off. If she's smacking in in the chest or face without breaking skin then no hitting back.