I'm coming out of the closet. What can I expect from dating a lesbian?

I'm bisexual and have had both girlfriends and boyfriends. Girlfriends aren't THAT much different from guys. The dating process is the same. You blush and flirt at first, someone builds up the courage to ask the other out, you have a mildly awkward first date and so on. The dates you have with another girl are the same as with a guy. Dinner, movies, ice-skating, beaches...whatever. The main difference is that if you are dating a girly girl, she is more likely to want to do...girly girl stuff with you. Like a "shopping date". With a guy, shopping can be a pain since they don't participate and just kind of follow you around (Most guys.). With a girly girl you can actually shop!

As mentioned elsewhere, dating can become a challenge if your girlfriend (or you) is ashamed of being seen together in public. If one is fine with holding hands at the mall, but the other is afraid of negative comments, then conflict will ensue.

Girls tend to be a bit more emotional than guys, and tend to be better at expressing their feelings. This is both good and bad sometimes. Good because my girlfriends have said such sweet things to me! Bad because my girlfriends can get moody and upset over inexplicable things. Girls also are more likely to play mind games (say something but mean a whole different thing but expect you to understand them anyway). Guys tend to be very straight forward with their speech... yes means yes no means no.

Girls are soft and cuddly. Their lips, their hands, their bodies. Sex with a girl is fun and challenging. Not all girls are a like, so you can't assume that just because you ARE a girl that you automatically know what another wants in bed.

Another thing about girl/girl relationships is that sometimes one becomes the "top" and the other "bottoms". Sometimes one girl will be more dominant than the other and play a more masculine role, especially in bed. You will have to think about which role YOU prefer, if any. I have played both roles, and have had a relationship where we alternated.

Most of the things I've said are situational. Some girls are down-to earth and straight forward with their speech, some hate shopping, some are butch but are submissive in bed. Exceptions exist to every 'rule', but I hope I've given a general explanation as to what is different between dating girls and guys.

You can expect a lot of stares from people lol. Bu, a lot of my friends have come out of the closet recently, and they think most people are cool with it. I'm cool with it. Usually there are clubs you can go to for picking up other women. I'm sure there is one where you live. I have one here where I live and it's not that big of a town. I think that everyone is different from each other but I think you can tell by looking at some people. If you think someone is a butch then they will act more like a guy. A lipstick would be more like hanging out. I wouldn't really go by that, because either way it is a girl and they are going to act like a girl at some point and there is going to be a difference between dating a guy : )

Well, I wouldn't know what to tell you. What's it like dating a guy?

I guess... I CAN tell you that going out with a girl, especially my girl is no different than from anyone else.

Whatever it is you do in relationships is always the same, I guess Lesbians are more... well, they ARE more respectful. And sometimes more touchy, I guess? Lesbian don't tend to be very accepting although that's not all of us. FTM is usually hated by Lesbians, they really like being what they are, men are icky. But hopefully you can find someone calm and respectful towards you, like me :) Except I am VERY taken d:

Someone... understanding, that you don't really know the ropes. I don't sound really different from anyone else do I? A Lesbian date would be nice, you go to dinner, or or clubbing, or to the movies... I don't know, date stuff, and people probably stare and you a little but they don't care, really.

Butch lesbian would be more... harsh, guyish, kinda like the people on the L word a little bit. Not my type! But some, obviously butch girls are very... like a boy. Sometimes. But not. They're still girls... on the inside, but prepare for a gentleman.

"Lipstick" lesbian is just like any other girly person you meet. I'm sure have friends that are girls? Well that's them except gay ;)) They usually have all the girl traits, BUT not always! And they smell pretty and dress up and are very girly. Prepare for a girl, being a girl, that wants to be with girls too. :)

Me? I'm not really either one... I'm just Amanda, so good luck anyway! :D

well....the female biology would be a plus....but i think most lesbians are attracted to more than genitalia....it's the whole female we are attracted to. so dating a man, no matter his physical makeup probably wouldn't last long. having said that, i'm sure that relationships like that do exist...once love enters the picture a whole lot of otherwise unacceptable quantities become moot, all logic and rationality can just evaporate away. my wife says that she is just thrilled that i was born transsexual. if, she surmises, i had been born with female biology she would not have been attracted to me in the first place and our relationship wouldn't have come to pass. so, it's only that she perceived me as male that made our thirty year marriage and romance possible. being born transsexual, contrary to popular opinion, can have profound and life long positive affects on our lives. every time i see her beautiful face, every time i see the love in her eyes....i thank God for making me transsexual, He sure knew what He was doing with that one! much love and hope. pj

My best advice, don't try a butch. They were almost too hard for me, almost. Bashing serves no purpose. Dating a girl is different yet the same as a guy. Same one of you chooses what you do-or maybe it's a tossup. Here's where it might differ, you can wear your heart on your sleeve and not be belittled for it. Gay guys are pretty cool with this. You can also be as sarcastic as you like (at least I am) and she's okay with it. hm that is like hanging out with the girls, isn't it?

Congrats - Its high time you lived your own life for YOU . The atmosphere of your first date should be relaxed but may feel a little tense . Dont be suprised if you dont meet the perfect woman on your first try . You still have to learn what your type is , and then find a brave woman who wont retreat when everything goes fantastically well -

After awhile they would get to know you and give you exactly what you need and know what you want. It would be the same as a boyfriend regarding to hanging out. But in public dates it may not be the same if both of you feel at all embarrassed or ashamed when people start to look at you.. if they do. But if it makes you happy then it doesn't matter

i'm not a lesbian or a girl and most of my life i always imagined same sex relationship to be, all about sex, but it will just be like dating but with women.

And there is nothing wrong with being gay, lesbian or bi, people say your born gay etc but its not true you make the chooses and that bit is from experience

in another question you asked, you stated that you are not gay. what you can expect is a girl who likes/loves girls. every lesbian is different, just as people are. we are stereotyped often in a negative fashion but each of us is different. love is love is love. just as there can be drama in str8 relationships, there also can be in lesbian ones. be proud of who you are, there is only one of you! goddess creates only perfection. namaste'

no two lesbians are the same, hon.

there is soooooo much variety. you can expect anything and everything.

Some show you love, some dont.

Some show you respect, some dont

Some you will have fun being around, some you wont

etc, etc, etc.

They are just ppl. i know its cliche....but its the truth