I need some serious help?

This is a serious grey area. After all relationships are important however they are not engaged or married either.

Personally I’d leave it alone if they were engaged or married… that’s crossing the line.

But how many relationships do you see progressing from the boyfriend / girlfriend stage onto marriage? My point? A guy or girl will go through a few potential mates before they find “The One”. Just because she is with someone now doesn’t mean that she can’t change her mind. After all YOU could be “The One” not so?

Now here is the thing. Yes you will be the ‘bad guy’ there is no getting around that. However it may be worth it if you to are really meant for each other.

Which brings me to my other point. If you just want to ‘score’ with this girl then that’s cruel to her bf & you should just move on. Only if you can truly see a future with this girl you should make a move. (& I mean.. a wife & kids… forsaking all others etc.)

If you believe your intentions are pure & you need to see where the potential relationship can go… then you need to tell her how you feel. (& please be direct & give her real reasons to be with you instead of the “I just can’t live without you” crap) She must have good reasons for giving you a try, thus leaving her boyfriend.

Now I do not believe that someone (in this case the girl) should leave just because she thinks she found “the next best thing”. One should only leave a relationship if it’s not working out. Not because they found a new ‘toy’.

So even her attitude towards leaving (or not leaving) the guy can give you an indication of whether you should be with this girl or not. If she will leave him for you in a heartbeat even though he treated her relatively well…. that’s a red flag. She could do that to you next month.

All I can say is that you should have a strong case for you two being together. You should have reasons …but SHE should give reasons as well! Last thing you need is a shallow girl who just thinks your ‘hot’. (you will get hurt in the end if that’s the case)

Make your decision based on your true feelings & pay attention to her motives as well. Look at things objectively & don’t get caught up in the fact that you like her so much. If you can get emotions out of the way for a second… step back & see that you two would still be great for each other even as friends... then a romantic relationship would be worth pursuing.

The best thing to do right now is to become her friend. Talk to her, learn more about her, and build up your friendship. When and if she tries to confide in you about her boyfriend, be supportive, even if it kills you, so she knows that she can trust you. Then when they break up, which they will because she obviously likes you, then you can slowly develop a relationship with her on a girlfriend-boyfriend level. Who knows, this situation may be the best thing that could happen, but just make sure that you don't take advantage over the substantial power that you hold.