Ex boyfriend vs Current boyfriend?

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I was in a relationship with this guy for 4 years, I started to work a part time job just to have a little extra money and I found out that he started to talk to this girl in our home while I was working. I have no idea how far they took it but I left him, this was back in April. Reminder, they were on the phone every night for about 2 hours or so, and there was this one time when I worked a Saturday and he was not home for the entire day, when I asked him where he was he said at the park. Anyway, I spent this first 2months crying, stressed, you already know… heartbroken. He took all his stuff out of our apartment and even though I know he was creeping, I still wanted to be with him and I asked him to come back and he told me he wanted to be by himself. Anyway, now, I’ve been talking to this guy who is really nice and was recommended by a family member, we went out on a couple of dates and I’m really liking him, so the ex pops up and now he’s willing to do anything to come back into my life. Meanwhile, the other guy really likes me and I like him too, if you were in this situation what would you do? Do you continue to move on with the new guy and see what happens or do you go back to your ex who broke your heart?

Hang Tough · Accepted Answer

Sounds like you're caught between choosing someone you know versus taking a chance with someone you don't.

It's always difficult emotionally to let go of an ex. But here's the thing, you know he's bad for you. Deep down you know that whatever short term happiness your ex can give, it'll cause much more grief in the long run.

What you need is strength to give your ex up. Forget him, live a good life on your own. It doesn't have to be a choice between 2 guys, but it sure as hell doesn't have to mean getting back together with your ex either.

Be strong.

? · Answer

don't be silly ..u know the reality of ur... ex y WD u even consider going back there look forward not backwards as u already know whats happened in the past do u really want to repeat it ..just get on With ur new b/f and leave ur ex where he belongs IN THE PAST..2 late to start begging he had his chance and he disrespected u by entertaining another whilst ur at work god knows what else he gets up to NEW GUY NEW GUY NEW GUY .don't even consider ur cheating ex ..remember u left him u had ur reason's just because time has past it don't change the fact he cheated on u and he's most prob got dumped 4 cheating Again and the girl most prob kicked him out that's y he's back ..it's ok to still think about him u can't help that but don't kid itself  that he'll be different this time around........remind him of what he said  he wanted to be by himself now he is and he don't like it he expects u to be a sucker and take him back..u get me

Anonymous · Answer

best thing to do is listen to your heart.  :)
but my advice, i know how your ex feels, guys are like that, when they lose someone thinking there nothing, after a while they'll do anything to get back wit em. and this time im sure your bf is gona be commited and will make you happy. i mean you've been with him for 4 years, you had great times together im sure, but i advice you to go back wit him because even though he hurt you, im sure he loves you like no other and a changed man. im saying this because ive been in the same situation. and the new guy is too new to even feel so much hurt if that is what your afraid of, im sure the new guy would understand. go back wit your EX or his life is gona b ruined without you!!!

Brittany · Answer

You need to stay with the new guy. If your ex put you through this once what makes you think he won't do it again. Keep dating your new guy. He seems to treat you so much better, I know it may be hard because when you date someone for four years you can't fully detach yourself from them, but even that isn't enough to hurt this new guy you met for someone who most likely will just break your heart again. You don't want to lose this new guy for the old one and wonder what could have been.

Desi954 · Answer

I would see where it goes with the new guy. I know you may (im sure) still have love for the ex, but like you said...he broke your heart....and then when YOU were willing to give him another shot HE said no. You need to see were the new flame goes....maybe it will be all you ever wanted. If you dont and things dont work out with the ex your going to wish you had given it a shot!

Jessi · Answer

Maybe the new guy, but definitely not the old one. I personally would skip both because I'd want more time to heal and spend some time trying to get my life back in order. I think once you've had enough time to see straight, you'd be able to figure out what's best for you.

Barbara B · Answer

Honey, can you say "no-brainer?" 

Move on with the new guy and tell EX he got what he wanted - to be alone. Tell him to go away and stay that way.

&lt;3 · Answer

Continue to move on with the new guy..you already tried to give your ex another chance and he wanted to be alone, and alone he can stay. ;)

Good luck!

Lisa Y · Answer

wow...tough one.  umm....i know how hard it is to lose someone you're in love with and for them to be a jerk and say they wanna be alone.  its not fair for you to mope around and wait for them to change their mind and realize they want to be with you.  if i were you, i'd tell my ex if he wants to really work it out, he needs to show me he wants to be with me.  but i would still hang out with the new bf because he hasnt done anything but made you feel good.  right?   if your ex really does change and you can see that, take him back, but if he doesnt, you got urself another guy.

EJ R · Answer

i would move on wth ur new man leve ur old boyfriend behind ths new guy could be the one for u

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