How do I encourage my husband to seek help for his gambling addiction?

The unfortunate thing about addiction is that the addict needs to realize his problem and seek help. If others berate him on his addiction then he only gets defensive and digs himself deeper into the rut he's in. It could be that a jarring experience such as you leaving might be what it takes to shake him out of his stupor. This is a tough situation and I feel for you. My prayers are with you.

Just like any other addiction, he'll have to realize the need to stop by himself.

You can show him how it's hurting the relationship or the family. You can encourage him.

But he needs to see for him self it's a problem or he'll never get help.

If you feel you need to leave because of it, you have that right, but don't think an ultimatum will make him quit. It almost never works. Most likely you'll have to follow through and move out or renege on the ultimatum. Don't take this route unless you are really at the point you will walk away if he doesn't get help.

Check around and you should be able to find a support group for families affected by addicts. This won;t help him, but may help you cope and may be a source for ideas on how to get him to receive help.

Good luck

Give him an ultimatum.

Sadly, I am familiar with addiction and it's the only way for him to break the physical addiction to his gambling is if he seeks help and the help will do a lot of good.

I'm sorry you have a husband who has a gambling addiction. Addiction is a horrible thing that no-one should have to go through

Do not kick him out or something along the lines of that.

http://helpguide.org/mental/gambling_addiction.htm

http://www.gamblersanonymous.org/

1. Ask for help. Call Gamblers Anonymous.

Tell your husband to loosen up a little bit and that gambling is not helping the character in him. Tell him that there are lots of people with no jobs and money is really hard to find. Tell him that you love him and that you care about him.

My husband has a gambling addiction.

Here is what I do:

I set a reward system that allows him to gamble for example Mowing the lawn may give him 10 dollars, like chores. Really gambling is fun and if he earns it then it is better spent.

If he screws up then dont sex him up.

If it is all his own money and he blows it before paying bills and is not willing to try the reward system or you guys cant afford the reward system LEAVE HIM.

The Gambling addiction is just as bad as a drug addiction. It is very difficult for one to realize they actually have a problem with the issue. Have him call the gamber anonymous hotline. If that doesn't work that you might have to start making your personal decisions regarding doing what's best for you.

Why not go to a local support group and sit in on a session. Then you can ask the group leader what to do. Or you can get some brochures to give to your husband. I think if he doesn't recognize a problem or even want help to change you will not have an easy time fixing this problem. You can change your accounts (bank) to only in your name or at least do not share joint accounts.

Ultimatum time! Seek help for your gambling addiction, or I'm filing for divorce. See if that motivates him!

By filing for legal separation to protect your assets from being frozen by creditors or your paycheck from being garnished. I know a gal who lost EVERYTHING because of her spouse's buying addiction (wasn't even gambling).

Give him the numbers to a shrink and tell him that it is the psychic hotline for lotto numbers.

Whenever you are together roll dice or flip a coin to determine whether you do or don't do something.

For example:

Cook Dinner.

Heads or Tails. Ohhh tails no dinner tonite. Wow gambling is fun honey!

Nookie:

Roll the Dice:

Ahhhh no nookie. ZZZZZZZZZZZZZZZZZ