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HELLPPPP!!! BESTFRIEND HELP PLEASE?
Ok well Im not rich but we are pretty comfortable nd so are most of my friends and there families. Me nd my friends looooove to shop and do it often. The problem is my bestfriend doesnt have alot of money. Her mother is single and has two other kids. Everytime I invite her to come shopping with me and my other friends or just me she says no because she dosent want to just watch us shop. Even movies nd other stuff she dosent want to go to. I try to tell her its not just about getting stuff and everything its just about us being together and having fun. She wont even take my help when i offer to pay for certain things. I really dont understand why she feels this way and it makes me quite mad. How can I convince her that she dosent need a whole bunch of cash to just hang with us and that we'll not going to judge her or anything?
thanks alot Brianna! Thats my name too! The not buying nothing is a good idea! Except for this Friday my other bestfriend and I are going back to school shopping and I invited her and we have to buy stuff! She just wont go!
Thanks Vicky=] Yu did help. alot. We do have sleepovers all the time. I just feel bad the next day when my mommy is like where do yall wanna go today or if other friends are there and there like the mall and movies or something.
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- 1 decade agoFavorite Answer
Everyone should be equal, no matter how much money they have. Your friend obviously is not able to shop a lot, so have her over one day, and build up your friendship! and talk to her! if you do go to the mall, then you dont have to buy anything, just look around. you dont have to buy something to try it on! make it fun and dont buy anything. also, you know that she cant afford to shop, so if she sees something that she likes, then buy it for her or get your friends to pitch in! that will make her feel so special, to have friends that she can have fun with, and that could be there for her when she needs it!
I have a bestfriend that is the same way, she might not take bribes or gifts. and even if you want to do something fun with your friends, you dont have to go shopping, you can do other things. going to a garden, park, city, beach, lake, anything! would be great to hang out with your friend!
I hoped this helped!
~Brianna
- 1 decade ago
i know exactly how she feels. its great that you want to have fun with your best friend even if it costs u money. but judging her is not entirely what its about. she sees money differently than you do. when you look at twenty dollars you see a great time with good friends. when she looks at wenty dollars she sees a nice lunch for her and her siblings and less stress for her mom. she really doesnt just want to watch you shop. and i know u dont want to let that happen to her but its happened to me with some of my nicests friends. its just the way it is. she probably either a) doesnt want to use up her money b) would feel bad by even asking for her moms or c) doesnt feel right about asking you. your frien probably only wants to shop at a certain time of year and for convenience reasons. she has taught herself not to use money because at times money is your biggest worry. if u guys are teens im sure she feels more comfortable with the most percentage of her money in a safe place. that means not at the mall. she might really just want to do something simple and less stressful. try asking her to do something else for fun that doesnt require money. just invite her over for a nice lil sleepover. im sure shell appretiate that. i know it annoys you but please try not to be mad with her. okay? it is not meant to offend you and your other friends.
i really hope i helped.
