How would you react to if your boyfriend............?

Don't dump him. You need to understand this, it is hard for everyone. Your first true love is someone you will never forget. You never forget the first of big things. So you must understand why he wont forget her.

He must of had a very strong relationship with her. Can you imagine just forgetting someone you loved dearly? No, it isn't going to be that easy.

Look, your boyfriend is faithful to you, he has been with you for 2 years! He is obviously in love with you, he told you so. Your just not his first love, and that's something you need to get over. You will be fine. He doesn't mention her often, he told you he is in love with you. He is just stating a simple fact, that his ex was his first love.

But guess what, something happened with them, and that is why she is called his "Ex".

He is yours now, he seems to be honest with you, hold on to him.

People have failed relationships all the time until they find a lasting relationship. You both are only 19 and have time on your side. Tell him that if he really wants to work this relationship then he will have to let go the attachment he has with his ex. There is nothing wrong in being friends with her but if he can't get her off his mind and keeps talking about her that she was first and true love then you should ask him to get back to her and move on yourself.

I've never been in a serious, real relationship to give you any advice on this, although I do want to return the favor of answering my question....

I don't know how I would react....

Try talking to him. That's honestly the only thing you can do.

Ask him if he has feelings for you.

Ask yourself questions. Are you going to be able to live with the fact that your boyfriend's been in love before, and that was his first true love?

Passion...doesn't last, though.

That's why she's his ex, right?

Just take it one step at a time....

These obstacles are hard to overcome, but these sort of things strengthen a relationship, I suppose....

You're going to be okay :)

There is no way to solve this problem until you get the strength to believe what he says and let it go. I still love my first love, he was a great guy but we moved on. If he doesn't talk about her often, then, why are you so insecure?

You are wrong if you want him to lie just to spare your feeling. Having someone tip toe around the truth is not a healthy relationship to be in. Just accept what he said and let it go especially if he isn't chasing her around.

Well here's how I see it Everyone has their first love and it's hard to forget about them. You didn't say if he talks about her all the time. If he is that is not normal, most people keep things like this to themselves. You are his girlfriend now and that is not acceptable. I think that talking about an ex when you are with someone is a good way to lose the one your with now unless they ask you about your previous relationships. Let him now it bothers you.

well your first true love is hard to get over because it was the first person he loved and who loved him back. Just give him time and let him say whatever and don't pay attention. But he should know not to be sayin gthat too expeciallly to you. He should stop with his first and turn to what he has in front of him which is you.

You shuld make him realised that you are getting hurt of these words.you should talk to him about this issue directly tell him that you can understand his feeling because you r also still have a softcorner of your Ex. but we should not express it on eachother should start a new life and accept the thing comes in the way.

It's normal. I mean, if he is your first love now, then you will understand it later, if ever break up. And. if you had already first love, then you will understand what it means. I get that it might feel weird about it but it has a place in his life which he can't erase. But if he talks about her often and stuff like that then... perhaps he's not over her as he thinks he is...

i can understand hw u must b feeling,,but sweety crying wont solve ur problem

u hav 2 understnd 1 thng,it may seem a bit filmy but it is vry true dat,,1st love cannot b forgotten dat easily,,but dat doesnt mean dat one cannot get over it,,as u mentioned its been 2 yrs 4 ur relationship nd he is still nnot able 2 forget his ex,,den its better u til him clearly dat it hurts u wen he says such thngs,,tel him dat evn u hav feelings nd such thngs reii prick d heart,,or else leave dis guy cuz he is not worth u,,its been 2 yrs n he has not understood u yet,,so howmuchevr tym u spend wid him nww vl not relii mak ny difference 2 him,,cuz his ex has made a big impact on his lyf,,

cmmon gurl chuck out dis guy frm ur lyf,,nd find a new one,,deir r zillions of dem waiting 4 u sweety!!!

i'd be devastated of course. but hon, if he does love you he wouldn't have said that his ex was his true love. its true that in a lifetime, you may or may not fall in love several times, but there's just ONE GREAT LOVE. if that's how he feels about his ex, save yourself now, leave him before its too late. Think of what will happen if the ex shows up and wants to get back with your boyfriend. He'll definitely take the chance. Period.