Do you think that if you have a baby early your life is completely ruined? .?

I do believe we need more education, and resources for teens. Sex shouldnt be so taboo, and parents need to be closer to their children. This is all needed in order to prevent teen pregnancy. Now once you are in situation, I do believe there should be more support groups since teen mothers are at a higher risk of developing postpartum depression. I don't believe they should be handed things just given a little more help to continue their education. Also society needs to place more responsibility on the fathers of these children born to teen moms. It takes two to tango.

No i don't think it ruins your life, sure theres gonna be a ton of stuff you can't do anymore but there is still alot you can.

My best friend had all 3 of children before she was 20. Her first one was at 15 then second one at 17 and third one at 18 ( number 2 and 3 are actually born in the same year one in jan and one in dec ).

She has done a really great job raising them and finished school and works 4 days a week. Her oldest one is now 10 and very respectful and helpful as are the other 2 who are 8 and almost 8.

Her idea is that she didn't think she would have kids so young but now that she has she wouldn't change a thing and her and her b/f ( all 3 kids father ) can work now and travel after retirement.

I know of a girl who got pregnant at the age of 17. She was one of those party girls that went out all the time and someone you expected not to be a very good mother but in fact its one of the best things to have ever happened to her. I mean she's done a complete 180 from heading no where to thinking of the future she can have. And other who got pregnant at about 19 who is finishing off her studies at uni.

Also my friends and I were discussing one day about what they would do if they fell pregnant at 17 and one of them said that if she was her parents would kick her out of home. Image how it would feel. No home, very little money. How much choice does she have in the decision? I mean talking about being pushed of the plank.

Getting pregnant at a young age doesn't mean the end of the world. Though i do think the government should put some money into helping pregnant teenage girls get an education by either funding it or providing paid child care if they can not or don't have family to help.

first off NO. obviously you didnt ruin your mothers life if she is going to be a doctor and has been a nurse. Their are waaaaay to many older adults that dont have much for them selfs!

and there are plenty of programs for teenage mothers! I know for myself getting out of high school i couldnt even get college paid for because i didnt have a child (which makes you an independent, i guess) and my parents maid to much to qualify for financial aids but not enough to pay for my college. not only that a lot of schools give free day care for the children while the parent is in class.

As i was going thru high school it felt as if they were rewarding teen mothers... crazy.

I have plenty of friends that were teen mothers and they did what was right for them at that time.

although having your complete freedom slightly shortened it could be a good thing because the parent is forced to grow up and make something of themselves in some cases!

OHK. i have a huge problem with this as well. tho it isnt the best decision to get pregnant at 17 it isnt the end of the world. I got pregnant at 16 and everybody in my family saw it as taboo. I heard over and over how i was going to hate it and be worn out to the bone. Truth is i made it just fine and my son is a year old an i still am going to college so getting pregnant at a young age is not going to completly ruin your life. my life is purely enhanced an i am a better me with my son in my life. an as for help i have wic which is a life saver!! an also i had free daycare from ccds for being in school. i had no problem finding help because i was persistant in looking i never gave up. i guess its just a problem of taking control an not giving up.

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when people say that to you they don't understand that you didn't ruin anything. how could you have ruined her life when the one she does have is with you as her child? no life is ever at fault just for being born. yes maybe a poor decision was made BUT none of that mattered once you were born. =]

I agree with you, it also seems like young moms are not expected to be good parents. They don't provide enough education for young moms like they do for older parents, and then we wonder WHY so many young moms don't live up to their potential. I mean really, not many will if it's not expected of them. Maybe more teen parents would be like your mother if we held them to the same standards we hold older parents to.

As a young mother, I completely agree with you. Sure you give up a life of drugs, sex, and partying, but spending my days with this gorgeous little giggle monster is WELL worth it.

Before I had my daughter, I was not working, was in a horrible relationship, and wasn't in school. Now that she's born, I'm working again, I'm starting school at the end of the month, and I broke up with her daddy. I'm happy, no longer depressed, and motivated! I say, she saved me!