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igor f asked in Social SciencePsychology · 1 decade ago

What would you call this type of person by his actions (BPD, sociopath, crazy, evil, douchebag, etc..)?

The person in question is my dad, who I live with and who I am trying to move away from (I'm 20). I think that to the average person who deals with him, they will think of him as a typical ******/prick. Others will think he's a sociopath. He seems to have a very distorted sense of ethics. In other words, the things he says and does, no matter how cold-hearted or viscious they are to the average person, are somehow justified in his eyes (I think). I am going to type a list of some of these things and hopefully you could give your 2 cents about what this man is and how I could go about dealing with him.

- He's a manipulative, pathological liar. He will look at you dead in the eyes and lie to you about even the most trivial thing imaginable. He lies to credit card companies and uses alias names. Also never pays his bills.

- He's an envious person. The neighbor once put tinted windows on his truck, and he called the cops on him for it. If someone looks better than him he'll talk loads of trash, etc.

- He is obsessed with power and control. He is constantly intimidating people and instilling fear into their minds. It's not just my mom. One day we called the cops on him, and he confronted them with a cellphone, telling them he was going to call his high-ranking FBI friend to have them reported and fired. It's always "if you don't do this, then I'm going to do this and this to you." The most disturbing thing is how calm, collected, and confident he stays when he does this.

- He has this fake charm to him that's also very disturbing. When he talks to people, it's like he turns into a different person than the one I'm accustomed to. He's very confident and he speaks in this quiet, calm tone that draws people in.

- He used to mess with his senile 93 year old dad by telling him he had a gun in his closet and was going to take it out. He used to find this extremely funny and amusing.

- He has a very angry and short-fuse demeanor. He's a black and white thinker; there's never a gray area to any issue. A while ago we were in a store late at night and the manager was telling everyone inside that the store had closed. When he tells my dad, he actually put up a fight and told the manager he couldn't kick him out, and that if he did he was going to call the news. The manager was visibly shaken, which made me angry. He doesn't seem to realize that there are people who want to go home after a long day's work.

- We live in Florida, and during hurricane season, he watches The Weather Channel all day hoping that a hurricane comes because he wants to defraud the insurance company and get a free check from the insurance company for his own personal needs.

These are just some of the things. There are very few positive qualities about him that I could mention. He comes from a family with a long history of mental illness. I am certain that he was physically and emotionally abused as a child.

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  • 1 decade ago
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    Your dad is an egoist. But what can you do? Him being selfish was a trait given to him by god :p

    And try not to hate your dad too much. He might have a profound reason for his doings.

  • 1 decade ago

    It could be lots of things, you need more than a list of events like this for a definitive diagnosis. Off the top of my head it sounds like it could be antisocial personality disorder or narcissistic personality disorder, but it may not be that severe. He needs services for certain. You might try to contact social services or a psychologist and discuss some strategies for getting him into counseling. It will be tough and he will be resistant but he needs the help of a professional. That being said, you are not a professional, and you should move. Are you currently in college? Maybe a transfer to an out-of-state University is in order.

  • Anonymous
    1 decade ago

    Yeah, I would TOTALLY call him a sociopath. He seems like the type of person who would walk into crowded store and start blowing people away. I would get as far away from him as possible. Seriously.

    Actually what he needs is a major ***-beating, someone to crush his little nutsack and make him beg for mercy. Mmm, that sounds fun.

  • 1 decade ago

    i hope you do get out of there,mental problems,control freak,sorry, serial killer comes to mind.You can't deal with him,why haven't you left yet?

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  • 1 decade ago

    He's a sociopath.

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