Best friend is really lazy......what should I say to her?

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My best friend is a really great, funny person and she's really sweet, but she's.....quite big.....you know, overweight pretty bad. When she eats, she pretty much inhales her food and if we do something, she gets tired way fast and then just sits around. Then she gets this tired look on her face and just lays on my bed or on the couch and it's really annoying. Then she doesn't want to do anything. It sucks...

I'm really concerned about her though, I just want her to be a bit more active and my sister and I have tried real hard but she just gets too freaking TIRED! ugh....She also always complains about how she looks and how some people call her fat and how embarrassed she it. I never know what to say to that. I feel bad for her because she's my best friend but idk....

So yeah I just pretty much want to know what I should tell her to help her become more active and eat a bit less. Thanks so much!!!!!!!

emma lynn · Accepted Answer

say this:

"okay (her name here), your my bestfriend, and i only want the best for you and before i tell you i want you to know that i really hope this doesnt hurt your feelings and i dont want you to take this the wrong wat and i really want to help you and i really dont wanna hurt your feelings but i think you need to lay off the snacks a bit, we always run around and you get tired realy fast...i have no problems helping you! im right here by your side if you want to loose weight...and i know how you tell me that people call you fat and you can fix that and i promise ill help you (: im only here to make you better (:" 


if you can remember that youll be sure to get your friend to a bettr place (:

Skeptical777 · Answer

For a best friend, you are very critical of your bestie.  Are you sure that you are her friend?  Friends can talk to each other and accept each other as they are.  I have large friends, small friends, and until they want to lose weight, I don't judge them.  Don't get me wrong, we speak honestly about getting healthy, and when I had gained weight, I lit a fire under my friend's butt to try too.  But I give her more encouragement than anything else.  Instead of trying to make her into the friend that YOU think she should be, accept her as she is...and in the meantime, you can help her by doing things at her pace and letting her know that if she wants to lose the weight, you are there for her.  Calling her lazy just makes you look like a bad friend.  There are many programs out there for helping ppl adjust their behaviors as it relates to changing their lifestyle.  Be a friend and go the course with her.  Call her everyday, say "I'm going walking...and I'm coming to get you...no excuses..(in a playful manner)."  And speak with her honestly about what SHE wants for HERSELF.

Anonymous · Answer

as far as her lazyness doesnt affect you dont do anything, its her problem and she will never get out of it unless she really wants to....if it affects you talk to her and tell her to stop it for the sake of ur friendship.....is she doesnt stop even then then she is not worthy to be your friend

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