He's going away???!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!?

ROFL

"i love this guy so much"

".. but i want to date other people"

"i love this guy so much"

".. but 4 years is a long time to wait for someone"

Oh, first of all, I'm really sorry about your situation. Letting go of someone is never easy.

But like you said, you're young. Waiting four years is hard, your feelings for him (although i'm sure you doubt this can happen) may fade during the four years. You might just forget how he made you feel.

If I was you I'd take a break while he's away. That way neither of you will worry about the other one cheating. And if you do meet someone else, you won't be limited to saying no. You can get other relationships and mature. Then, when he comes back, maybe you two will get together again. So stay in contact with him but don't be the girl waiting by the phone. Do what you want to do while he's gone without feeling guilty.

Good luck with your decision

Hey Hey,

I've got the same thing goin on right now (long distance relationship) so I hope I can help you out here. First up, before going into a long distance relationship make REALLY sure they're worth it. Only you can decide that.

We started our long distance relationship only two weeks after we met, and even then I was sure that we could make it work - but it could be different for other people. I don't recommend your plan of breaking up and then getting back together when he comes home. If you really really love him then you can't see other people...what if your 'someone else' turned really serious, and then your bf came back?

If you're certain you can handle it, then go for it. Be strong and find new hobbies to keep you busy, hang out with your friends a lot and make sure you don't have too much time alone cause that's when it starts to suck. Otherwise if you can't deal with being apart for 4 years, you might need to call it quits and go through the breakup phase.

Either scenario is gonna hurt in one way or another - so it's up to you. Sorry to sound like a pessimist - I'm not! My long distance is working out pretty good so I should be proof that you can make it work.

Good luck! =)

It won't workout, you're only 18 and you're gonna come across a ton of guys during this 4 year period. There is a high as in HIGH chance for you to break up with him or you cheating on him. Let him go, or else you're only going to delay the inevitable.

Edit: Also one more thing, if you knew that he was going away then why date him and get into this mess in the first place?. I know someone who's going back to her country after 4 months and even though she's a great girl and all I'm not that stupid to get into a relationship with her.

hi majestic, nice name anyway he is thinking of making a living and protecting his country and i am in awe as so many people do it and never get thanked. you are young and he is also so to save yourselves so much hurt why dont you just see how things go you can date and write letters and keep in touch via phone and skype to skype if there is a computer or phone as it is free via computer. i know you say you are in love and he says the same but you could have an open relationship like feel free to the both of you to date others .he will meet so many people as will you .the choice is yours. but know this if you let someone go that you love and they love you back then they will come back to you . if they dont come back to you or loose contact they never where yours to keep in the first place. personally i would tell him that you love him but need to separate because of his job. and you can then be friends. the best relationships start from a long friendship in the first place any way. you both are going to have different lives so no jealousy should be included . take care

wow ppl on here are freaking mean I was reading the other answers.

Anyways, I know how you are feeling my husband left to join the Air Force and it is always hard to say goodbye. He is active duty but I got to see him when he graduated basic training and when he graduated tech school. I don't know how different it is for the Army but unless he deploys right after basic, I'm sure you would get to see him. I think the two of you should talk to his recruiter about weather or not you would see each other at all. We didn't get married until after all of his training was done. I know what you mean when you talked about dating other people, long distance relationships are hard but well worth it. My husband and I had been dating for 2 years when he left and it was very hard but we made it work. And you would be able to write each other and after his training you could talk on the phone and there is also webcam. Even when they are active duty there are ways to make it work it just depends on how bad you want it. Good Luck, and try not to be sad everything will turn out fine.

Don't be ungrateful he's going to war to fight for Americas freedom as well as yours. If you love him you will love him even more for doing that. When he comes home on leave you can ride him like a horse and show him appreciation for what he is doing. Don't break up with him because hes doing something for your Country. That's just messed up in the first place.

I'm in the Army and I'll tell you from seeing it over, and over, and over again that things won't work out. He'll forget all about you in about 3 weeks while he's at basic training. In the Army he'll have variety and meet a lot of people. Ask him about "Dear Sally" or "Dear Johnny" letters. Not trying to hurt your feelings, but it's a fact of life. Especially if you've only been dating for such a short time.

Your situation is not unlike thousands of other military significant others who wait. If you are so in love with him, you would wait the possible four years (he will get to come home from time to time for R&R, if I'm not mistaken) for him. Your relationship is fairly new, so I think you should just break up if you think you can't handle it.

If you love him I would stay with him. It will be hard for him away on duty as it is, never mind with losing you as well. If he thinks it best for you if yous split up, then I guess maybe. But I think he would rather hear from you when he was away, and then he has something to look forward to coming home for.

Also, does he not get leave??

listen you have a very sirious situation hera and you must talk this with him. are you ready to wait for him?? ask him is he ready to wait for you?? will he remember you or forget you after some couple of months not seeing you ?? and will you forget him after some years? is he feeling uncomfortable that he's leaving you ?? does he really loves you?? will he write to you wehen he's away? will he take your photo with him?? these are quetions you should ask him. the final decision is up to you if you both love each other you both will wait! but if this was only a temporary love i think oyu should tell him to stop the realation ship. it's only what you both think! i hope i helped!