If my child will not write thank you notes, should I write them?

So why are you letting him get away with it? You are the

parent so start acting like one. Write a sample letter

that he can copy. Ask him what he wants to say and

write it down. Then let him copy it. Proof read his letter and

if there are any mistakes then make him write it over. I

am talking about really glaring mistakes. It won't kill him and

it will teach him some social manners that will come in handy later on in life. This is what I did with my daughter.

She still hates to write thank-you letters but she does a

nice job when I push her.

I always had a hard time with this when I was a kid. One time I even thought my grandmother gave me stuff just so I would have to write her back!

(Of course she did!)

When I got older, for the first time I got someone a gift and had to mail it. I wondered if

A. They liked it

B. They even got it!

That's when I learned to write thank you notes.

Thinking back I can't believe that no one ever expected me to mail them anything but they didn't, that was something my mom did. So, yeah, for a little kid help them make a card and send it. But also help them buy / make something for someone else (sacrificially--using their time and money) and send it away--give them the whole experience of standing in line at at the PO, everyday wonder when the person will get it and talk about "I wonder if they like it."

With my kids that went a lot further than nagging. Then they understand why we sit down right away when we open something and write a letter - make a call, etc.

Just help the child to write short but clear and thankful notes. Some of us adults have trouble wording those notes to express what we really feel. Have patience and show the child how to write such a note. This helps. Peace!

I think that he should be responsible for that because if you do it for him and then you should get the credit of the work of writing and thinking about each note personally. Be an example and do one for him and then tell the child to think about what made that gift special or unique.

You are influencing his thought process and making him be responsible for his own things. Face it momma, when he gets married one day are you going to write the thank you notes at the wedding too.

Under 13, don't let him have the gifts till after they are written. Over 13, Don't give him allowance, or extra perks because he is unwilling to show appropriate gratitude. If either don't work then I would write a note as the parent, not signing the child's name.

He "forgets".Jeez.Okay,and like that's been an acceptable answer for how long?NO WAY!Allowing him to not do this very small considerate thing is sending him the message that you will always ,and I do mean always cover for him.Do you follow him around every where and thank everyone for everything for him?Of course you don't!tThis is unacceptable behavior and should be dealt with accordingly.Maybe you could write notes and tell everyone that he's an inconsiderate boob and they should no longer send things he should be thankful for.

He SHOULD thank his lucky stars he has a wonderful mom like you who cares!

If your child will not write thank you notes, take away the gifts until the notes are written. Take away ALL the gifts until the LAST note is written.

If he/she still refuses, then call the relatives/friends and ask them never to give him gifts again.

Please do not become one of these parent enablers.

Okay to be polite and responsive to others who gave or did us Favours of some kind. You can write the "Thank You" note unbehalf of your child. Also Instill the habbit in your Child to always leave a note of thanks for his or her benefactors. So, it doesn't matter. You or your child may do the thanking.

Of course not. Then all he'll learn is that he can just refuse to do things he needs to do, and someone else will just step in and do it for him. He's a child. You are his parent; do not let him make decisions for you; you make them for him.

Allowing a child to run all over you now will not create a man one day. It will create a lifetime little boy who needs his wife (second mommy) to do everything for him. Do not inflict another one of these on the world. Please raise your child.

Nope. Let him stop receiving presents.

This is a big issue in my family. Various members are refusing to give gifts to various other members because of the lack of thank-you notes (or calls or emails). If he doesn't consider a thank-you worth offering, he doesn't deserve a present.