Ways to get rid of Shyness?

I went into high school knowing a grand total of two friends going to my school, and I was super shy. Now, sophomore year, I have... way more [haha I don't feel like counting]. It isn't so much overcoming your shyness [I'm still shy!] as much as it is learning to work through and start a conversation. I basically started by just talking to people about homework [that's how I met my now-best friend.] It isn't too hard to muster up the courage to ask someone what the spanish homework was, and generally this can lead to more talking [so what school did you go to? what do you think about the history teacher? etc etc.] It's really important to get to know lots of people right away, because it's a lot easier to introduce yourself the first week of school than it is in Februrary [still possible, just a little more difficult.] Another really good idea is to join a club or sport- something that you really like. Everyone says to do it, but it really can help get rid of your shyness and make new friends [it's easiest to seek out the other people that seem kind of shy]. It can be a long process but if you make an effort to speak up a little at a time, chances are you'll get over your shyness at least a little :]

It's natural, y'know, to be a bit shy of strangers. If we weren't, we would have died out as a species long ago. But I meant to write this the other day when I read your response to Daoie's question on shyness that debilitating shyness and awkward shyness are different things. Your personality is probably just fine. No crime in being an introvert, or socially withdrawn, and you don't scare people away with your personality (or no one would invite you bowling), and you don't show up here as El Chango one day and Tara J the next. But you probably should not be feeling physically ill around crowds of strangers or social situations. If your heart is a poundin' like you're expecting a bomb to go off on a regular basis just because you're in a room with other people- well that might be worth checking out. (emphasize regular basis) Shyness in general can be solved by confidence building exercises, but its always worth checking out things that cause physical pain.

Hmm....Now is it just shyness or is it social anxiety disorder? Type social anxiety disorder into any search engine and you'll soon know whether you have it or not by reading about it. If you DO have it - there is no quick way to get rid of your shyness....you'll need some CBT one to one or group therapy or you could do it yourself http://www.socialanxietyinstitute.org/

You may just be *shy* (less severe then SAD) in which case....I would recommend deep breathing, excersize and self acceptance! (these are not solutions but can ease it if only a little) People like people like you :) who are modest and shy, so learn to like yourself for who you are in return!

i agree that you cant in effect get rid of it, but you can definitely reduce the ways in which you are shy. the best remedy for shyness is to constantly force yourself into social situation you would normally find uncomfortable. when your mind realises that others are not judging you as critically as you might feel, your heart will follow suit and allow you be a more open, approachable person.

look up shyness on google an try to understand the reasons FOR YOUR shyness.

usually, if you're shy it's because you're too proud, afraid people will laugh at you, and trying to preotect yourself ,

and last, you think you're not worth a lot compared to others..

WHY are you afraid people will think you,re not worth enough, not interesting enough? just go up to people you have nothing to loose.

It's naturally you, so forget trying to get rid of it hahaha.

Just find reasons why you should be more confident. And learn to make friends who you can be confident and comfortable around.

If you like to stay indoors always, its time to get some new friends, change your mindset as regards meeting new people for woe is unto him who has not an helper when he falls.

You’ve got to cultivate the habit of smiling always – it’s to your own advantage. It makes you happy and healthier; in fact your life expectancy is prolonged when you have more happy cells. When you smile to people, some will definitely return it, others will say some commendatory soothing words which all add up to build your self worth – a feeling that you’re wanted, that you belong. So why not get out there and smile. Do not be a jackal either.

Read and learn about different topics, about events, places, music, environment, weather, films, just about any interesting topic. This is important so you can produce suitable conversational topic. When you do this, you increase your chances to flow, you’re no longer shy abut your ability to keep a conversation going.

Learn to assume a relaxed posture, position wherever you are.

Its time to take care of your image. Whether you want it or not, people would scrutinize your looks. You’ll need to get a personality for yourself. To be frank, you can decide to standby, learn and improve your self-image, or completely be a shadow of someone else. Many people shy away because they are so conscious of their appearance. These steps will help on how to enhance your image and build the must have self confidence.

1. Feel good about yourself. Positive thinking is a good enhancer of personality. Nothing compares to an aura of self contentment and serenity. Shyness is developed by negative thoughts that others are far better than you. Stop that nonsense and start appreciating yourself. Look at the mirror every morning and say to yourself “You are a beautiful creation of God!” 2. Positive image starts in you. A good character is admirable and gives you credibility. Live harmoniously and be at peace with everyone. How can you project a positive image if your real life doesn’t say so? You can really feel shameful if you have criminal records. The real idea of an enhanced image is brought about by living decently. 3. Appearance. Good looking and fashionable people are the ones who get more attention from the audience. Being shy can also be a product of not so being confident on how you look in front of people. To enhance your image, you may want to consider these points relative to your appearance: • Clean body that comes with clothes. Be sure that you are clean from head to toe. Hygiene and proper grooming are important aspects in image enhancement. Putting on that clean apparel from top to bottom can give you an edge in any occasions. Making sure that your body and what you’re wearing are neat will help you feel secure about yourself and your appearance. • Proper color coordination. Be careful on what you wear as this can be a mirror of your personality. Combination of colors should be perfect. Neck ties should be matched with your inner shirt; belts and shoes should have the same color. • Put on the right make up. Woman should always be conscious about her make up. Any color will do for fair skinned while light shades of purple and pink goes with dark skinned women. Choosing the right lipstick should also be a priority. • Clean cut hair. You wouldn’t want to look like a rock star over a corporate meeting. Make sure that your hair is well trimmed and that it doesn’t cover your face. 4. Gaining a positive image will also be incorporated in your movements and ease in front of a crowd. You should develop eye contact and facial expressions appropriate to certain circumstances. Smiling is one sure way of gaining some people’s trust. This can also involve the proper actuations in a social gathering. Etiquette is necessary to develop your presence in any events. 5. Seek the help of a professional image enhancer. There are also certain books which will help you with the information on how to develop your image and do away with shyness. You can invest on these things to make sure that you are properly guided. Enhancing your image is one good way of overcoming your shyness. It can boost your self confidence knowing that you appear respectable and neat in front of anyone. Positive image can spell success thus it should always be cultivated.

Even if you dont get rid of it, it'll be gone by college. for now practice by handing a girl in class a pencil and then smile and start talking. be like whats ur name? and then talk about your classes and teachers.

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I know how you feel, I'm also painfully shy. Maybe you could talk to a counselor or therapist, you might have social anxiety.