How do I give my guest the boot without being rude?

Talk to her about it. Making excuses won't get the point across. Ask her why she says she's leaving but doesn't. Ask her why she stays over so long. Is she worried about "some guy"? Is there something going on at her place that she doesn't want to go back to? Tell her you are concerned and want to help. Tell her you want some privacy. You don't mind her coming over, but the overnights need to stop. You've got to lay down the law. You won't be rude for this. She is the one being rude! She taking too much advantage of you. And she'll keep doing it until you stop it. It is your place. You are in control. No matter how tired, sick or whatever you are don't put up with it.

If it is a guy or someone she's afraid of get her in touch with authorities or councilor. Real easy to find such people. Help her move somewhere else (NOT your place) if that is necessary for her to feel more secure. Or it could be simply getting her pepper spray or anything really that would help. Whatever little thing to get her to back off you.

There is a reason for her doing what she's doing. It could be a stalker, it could be her just being lonely or maybe she doesn't even have a place to live and neglecting to tell you this. Maybe she wants a friend to confide something in but since you just started hanging out not sure about doing that. Whatever the reason try to help her with it. If you can solve the problem that makes her stay so long then she won't stay so long. But by all means... turn her away if she shows up and you don't want to see her. Tell her you want you time. Every friend should respect this request. If you want her to check in on your cat tell her that you'd appreciate it if she were gone when you got back. Tell her how you feel! If she disrespects your requests she's not a good friend. Throw her out. You're NOT the rude one. She would be if that were the case.

Best of luck.

If she is showing up when you're not there then I'm guessing that she has a key. Big mistake. I would get my locks changed and tell her before you do it so that she doesn't think that she is the reason. Then if she asks for a key tell her that you only have one and you'll have to get more made. Just never do it. Thatll take care of her showing up and hanging out when you're not there. Then when you are there you can always lie to her if you don't want to hurt her feelings. Ask her to leave because you are having company over, a boyfriend or something, and you two plan on having a romantic evening there. She would understand that. When you don't want to tell someone the truth because you are scared of hurting their feelings just lie, lie, lie..

I used to have a friend like this. I think you just have to be really blunt to be kind. For example, make some dinner and then, after they've eaten, say "I think you'd better be getting home now." Alternatively, fake a hot date and tell her you'll be having loud sex or something! Don't be shy to kick her out, just be kind and firm and hope she understands.

The simplest thing to do is tell her. If you can't, then drop hints to her. She's clearly taking advantage of your hospitality. You don't know her well enough and she's already acting like she owns the place. Hmm...Try to talk to her. She might be having problems with her own home so she stays with you instead.

Goodluck!

don't be rude approximately it. in basic terms tell your pal which you do no longer desire any in one day travelers immediately although, if he/she could desire to ______ (come over for lunch/dinner/coffee etc.) then you definately could be chuffed to work out him/her. What ever you do, do no longer point out what you're promoting business enterprise's rude habit in the previous except he/she incredibly pesters you approximately it as asserting one's rudeness is seen rude.

tell her about it and how u feel if she really cares for u then she will understand gl :)

i think that you should talk to her about it, and tell her how you feel. Hopefully she understands. Don't be mean about it if you tell her.

-Carley :]

next time, go to her place or don't invite her over...