Please answer, I love a girl but marry another?!?

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I really need help i'm about to marry a girl but love another. I ask a similar question here but i thought i explain my situation a little more now.
I meet the girl i love a long time ago, we started a relationship but things didn't work out really well. She had a difficult past lost her parents and left me because her life wasn't easy, she thought she must bring her life in order alone. I loved her like crazy and i couldn't move on, then i meet a really nice and sweet girl, i love her and i care for her a lot but i never got over this one girl in my past. I always loved the other one and maybe i always will, but she was out of my life i thought i never see her again. Years gone by and now i'm about to getting married, then suddenly out of nowhere i meet the girl i always loved again, we talked and she wants me to be happy but she thinks she is not good enough for me, she has plenty of problems and she thinks i couldn't handle a relationship with her, but that isn't a issue for me i love her i can't think straight now. I don't wanna hurt someone the wedding is planed already. But my heart belongs to someone else. I can't talk to someone about that i'm not the guy who shows his feelings and emotions. What should i say her parents what should i say my parents and the most important how should i explain myself to her? What would you do in my situation?

mJc · Accepted Answer

Hon, you are being played for a fool by your past love.  All the "I'm not good enough for you" crap.  Blah, blah, blah.  You've built up a fantasy about this other woman and it's all fake.  You think you can 'save her" and that she can't live "without you" and you "without her".  It's bull crap fantasy land.  Come back down to planet earth.  Tell me this.  What kind of mother would she be?  Is she strong enough to be the mother of your children?  Is she loyal enough to handle the tough times when things get rough (because there WILL be tough times in any marriage).  Doubtful.  And then, my friend, you'll be truly stuck in a messed up bs relationship.  How do I know this?  Because I was involved with a man who ended up marrying another woman.  In my foolish middle girl heart he was my one true love.  But deep down I know we would not have worked out in the real world.  Our religioius beliefs were different, our political beliefs were different, our family upbringing was way different.  The "real" list goes on.  Anyway, long lasting love is not based on fantasy.  And this girl will drop you like a hot rock if you go back to her.  I don't recommend you marry your fiance at this time and think you need to ask her if you can put off the wedding date because you've realized you're just not ready yet.  Hopefully, she'll understand.  If not, you'll be free of her.  Just walk cautiously down the road you're heading.  Think about your future.  Think about the future of your children.  Think!

Phoenix21 · Answer

u need to talk to your fiance first..ask her in a scenario whether or not she would marry someone whose heart belonged to someone else..listen to what she says then gently reveal your story in an open honest fashion and u need to be heartfelt non of that "not a guy who shows emotion" nonsense..she will need to know how u feel..

then speak to this other girl and actually find out if u have a future with her..what if u end the marriage and u never end up with this other girl..what will your life be like? u need to know there is a future even if u don't get married..

then explain to the parents..unfortunately u might have to take all the expenses of the wedding on your head..yeah that's usually the price u pay.. Good Luck

Anonymous · Answer

"What would you do in my situation?"

well ... put all these in mind 

1. she left you << the one you claim you love 
2. you met a nice sweet girl 
3. you have a wedding planed already ...

now you said "I don't wanna hurt someone "

if you canceled the wedding and ran after the one you like (love)... 

you will HURT the "nice" "Sweet" girl you met ... sweet and nice are rare my friend nowadays specially if you are after your life mate ... 

now lets say you went to the one you met long ago .. and love her ..

she might feel bad again and walk out on you , she maybe is playing you asking for attention ... 

something all people seem to forget , the human race we , all of us ... chase what can't have , and we have it we look for another that we can't get ... and so on ...

so ... close your eyes imagin for less than a minute your life with that one you love and ask yourself this ...

is it Worth it , to leave this Nice Sweet Girl that loves me, for someone that I love whom Left me rather than make me help her ? 

what ever your answer is ... Good Luck !

personal experiance : when weddings or moments when things get definte ... we have seconds thoughts ... its normal 

have a great life

ashley · Answer

you dont need to marry that girl
please break it off now
you dont want to hurt her by not showing up at the wedding do you?
also 
remember the girl you love could of changed
she could be someone different now
make sure she is still the one

Anonymous · Answer

i don't know man.ur situation is very strange.i would suggest to marry the girl.that is because if ur relaionship with the girl u loved ''failed'' in the past.don't risk. 

pls answer my question 
http://answers.yahoo.com/question/index?qid=20090903033922AAe4kvc&r=w

Anonymous · Answer

dont marry someone you dont love

go for the girl u love

cgirl · Answer

well first of all your ex never told you or gave you signs that wants to get back with, so not burn yourself over something that has not happened. second of all i think you should just ignore your ex and have a happy ending with your fains be wife...it happened to me, trust me you'll be happy

crystal h · Answer

you have to tell her,it will hurt her but not as much as it will hurt if you marry her and love someone else

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