LEBANON CATEGORY : Question for the ladies ?

Out of all honesty, I have been in this situation many times before. Except I wasn't you, I was the girl.

I have been with my boyfriend for over two years now, and he does sound abit like this guy.

I have a guy friend who I have known for YEARS, he means the world to me. He is always there for me whenever I'm upset etc (even if its just things in general, not just about my boyfriend), and in return I'm always there for him too... He's there for me MORE then my boyfriend (Not because I always go running to my friend but because he also happens to support me more then my boyfriend). My boyfriend doesnt approve of me having facebook (social networks), he will delete guy friends numbers from my phone (the dodgy guys, why I even have their numbers only god knows), msn etc but when it comes to the guy that I am really close with (even though he dislikes it) he has had to deal with it! Because I will never let go of my friend & my friendship! Sure if it was a guy who was really dodgy and always hitting on me etc then I would be like ok fair enough, I understand why you would be angry (I would be angry if he was good friends with wh0res too). But like Haute said, you need to understand where the boyfriend is coming from. Sometimes its hard to believe that people are "just friends" especially when they are the opposite sex who do talk & have alot of fun together. It sucks especially for you, because you are at risk over losing a friend because of her boyfriends stupid assumptions (meaning you would lose the friendship over a lie that isnt true). And btw, my boyfriend isn't controlling (even though the whole no-social networks thing might appear as a little bit odd.. he honestly isnt. It just upsets him when he see's losers hitting on me even when I clearly have a boyfriend) I would feel the same way if it was girls doing that to him... even though he still has facebook.

If my boyfriend cannot accept that my best friend just happens to be a guy - then tough. He is either going to have to accept it or find a new girlfriend. This also shows alot of weakness in the relationship if he did leave just because of this... I would be happy that he left (if he did leave over these circumstances) because it obviously shows that he wouldnt be strong enough for future problems that we would face (actual problems not little-jealousy issues), so there is no point in being with someone who would walk away when things get "tough". It's been over two years now, I've kept the boyfriend AND the best friend. I think he finally might be coming to terms that NOTHING is going on. He also has a girl that is his bestfriend - which I don't get jealous over etc.

Listen, if your friend is going to be sneaking around just to see HER FRIEND, or is going to be saying sorry I can't see you/talk because of my boyfriend etc - then she is not a friend worth keeping!!! Either is her boyfriend. Yes I agree with Kate, this girl has a weak personality & is doing too much for this guy. Its extreamly disrespectful/unloyal for her to do this to someone who has been such a good friend & there for her. Like you said, maybe you should meet the guy and maybe you should bring a date along or something. How long have they been together for? I'm assuming he is a new boyfriend, maybe you should give him a little time to face up to reality and see that you and her are JUST friends. After all, if youse liked eachother then she would be with YOU and not him. He needs to understand that too - but its harder said then done. I just hope he isn't too stubborn & isnt the type of guy where its His way or no way. Otherwise it's the girls loss. She just lost a good friend for some jerk!

Good luck

I think you'd be pissed off...AND why are you letting this friend of yours date a jealous guy? lol I know it's not YOUR choice but jealousy leads to nothing but anger and destruction! I really don't think a relationship with someone like that will last, soon enough she'd come back to you hurt =( Yes, I would feel terrible to let someone down, and it is disrespectful to do so...by the way I will never have a jealous boyfriend!!! So...forgive her, because you're not a jealous, angry, full of hate kind of person are you?

And why this friend is still a friend why he is not a boyfriend, fiance, husband.

Actually yes what I will do is leaving this friend who was stuck in the friend area forever, and what should he do "I DON'T CARE"

Dear if you love this girl, tell her how come you have a boyfriend, what about me?

if you don't love her leave her with her boyfriend

I'm editing here my answer, It seems for me that lots of people are not convinced with such a close friendship between you and that girl on the other hand lots of them are convinced, simply the boy friend is not convinced and your friend seems to understand him, for me I would not accept such a relationship for my boyfriend with any other girl because if he was communicating with her so well on the mind and spirit level there is nothing left for me, I totally understand the situation of her boyfriend, he is probably thinking in the following way:

"we share our problems with the people who we love and trust if there was a third person of the opposite sex who is more trust worthy than me then that's it this is your love not me"

And for your beauty and how you look this is the last thing any mature lady will think about

I don't expect that you will pick my answer as the best one :P

Ohhh. Angel..Did "she" really cancel the meeting?

You are right being pissed , a real friendship is able to go through a jealous bf.

Even, I dont think the boyfriend stops his friendship with another girls bcoz of his gf.

Girls.....and even boys, have to accept that friendship is an important part of our lives, and that we cant go through life, leaving friends in our way, bcoz the gf/bf's doesnt like them.

It's all about the personality of each of us, but if you allow that being a gf......imagine after being married what that guy will do if he sees her talking with an old friend.

People allowing and accepting that, are unsecure....same as is unsecure the guy that doesnt trust his gf.

@Aussie.. Why do you underestimate the pple??? That is as much bad as not allowing the gf to meet her friends.

Ya well I would feel awkward in that situation and also I wouldn't understand the "jealousy" thing since we are just friends. I agree with Hally abt the unsecurity issue...but I also would say that your female friend has a weak personality and is letting that BF control her, it will end badly :-(

BTW Aussie...Angelo is an usual young man that I have had the privilege of meeting last year and this year and I am proud of that friendship...I hope you will have that honor soon.

it seems u are more than friends, or maybe you have feeling for her and she doesn't

well actually i always say this, if i dated a guy i will never ever let go of my friends even if they are guys. i have friends whom i know since 10 years and no one deserves to ruin my friendship with them.

I guess your lady friends should have drawn limits to her friends. at least let both of u meet. he will remain jealous till he meets you and when he does and knows your intentions and attitude he will change his mind

I'm telling u all this from my personal experience

If u respect your friend and don't want to lose her this is what u do. call her and invite both (she and her BF) for a coffee or a drink somewhere and make things clear (that are u only a friend)

hope it works

best luck

The boyfriend should be jealous :P

Buuuut...she shouldn't just let go of a good friendship like that. She may neevr find someone like you again to talk to about her problems. Plus, if she breaks up with her boyfriend and doesn't have you, it's her loss x2. She should hold onto the friendship between you two.

put ur self in her bf's shoes, lets say u have a gf and ur gf has a male best friend.

she and him have so much fun together ... she call him up or text him after midnight and complain about her problems ... he always picks up and replies her messages.

Any guy would be jealous over this, because he feels that she trusts him more with her problems. as if he's in competition with another. to me...It's actually the girl's fault.

It seems like that jealous bf is not a jealous rather than a guy who is obsessed with control because it took him really too fast to jealous !!! He is no gd type ,, a man who changes his woman as he wants ,, you just wait for bad things to happen to let her not fall down ,, be there for her in the right time ,, be patient :)

Great idea Hallambra!!! So we can have THE Sultan and THE Sultana and I will dance on the "alfy leila w leila" (thousand and one nights) song. And I agree with Webby, so I choose you too to be the Sultana, who would you choose among all the gigolos in here?