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Best Friend and I drifting......:(?

I'm 13, btw. My best friend "K" and I hav been sooo close for almost 4 years. We were friend's efore that for about 2 years, so a long time we've know each other. Anyway, she met this girl "M" last year. M is very....unlike us. You see, K and I are the kind of girls who are unique, wear bright colors, climb trees, do art, hate fashion, and love hats. M is super girly, wears pink, only wears dresses and skirts, bows in her hair, make up, giggly and sorta prissy. K has lately become closer to M, and I feel so left out. They do EVERYTHING togetehr! K said she was sick yesterday (labor day) and couldnt go to the bookstore with me. THEN i learned she had gotten over her cold on SUNDAY!!!!! She slept over at M's house this weekedn, studied with M, went to the movies, etc. K has become edgy and short fused. She is sorta becoming girly. Ihave always loved trivial facts and K did too. I told her a tidbit about aout eye color and precentage of people with whatever color eyes compared to iceland or something, and normally she would have been, "Awesome!", but she just said, "um, sure, whatever Sarah." and exchanged a lookwith M. M is just irks me, ya know?

Please, do not answer "your jelous." Yes, I AM jelous! As you can see from the descriptions above, I'm very..odd. I make like 1 friend every 5 years! No joke. So, I just feel trapped. I have only 2 frin, really, and they dont live in my state. One is my cousin 'S" and the other is my old friend "C". So I needschool firnds. I AM oen about my surroundings. I do service projects, amd sponsering a club, am in orchestra, French, etc, you get the idea. I AM a nerd, but shoulfnt all the things I do and my unusual niceness to everyone count for SOMETHING!?!?! :( anyway, I dont know what to do.

Update:

dude, I Will NOT chage to fit in. I LKE who i am and I love how i don't follow the crowd. and M is just...not my type of person.

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  • 1 decade ago
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    Sounds to me like your friend is hitting that wonderful thing called puberty and is learning new things about herself.

    Don't change who you are, not for anyone. But you may have to accept along the way that people don't all have the strength of character that you do. If people start to behave differently, that's not your fault, and has nothing to do with you. So go on with your life, and try to forgive people that forget their past friends when they try to move forward. They'll live to regret it, you shouldn't.

  • 1 decade ago

    Listen hun, you just don't need to get involved with this drama. And I wouldn't call you a nerd, I would say you were someone who has self respect and a seriousness about education. These days all girls are either trashy or followers. And you shouldn't be either. The truth is she must not be a TRUE friend if she is acting like this. Just move on with your life, she will eventually regret losing someone as great as you. It isn't your fault! For now keep a good attitude always respecting them, no matter how rude they are to you. This way you will be showing how much more mature you are and how much better you can be the bigger person. Hope this helps!

    Source(s): Me,Myself, and I! Heehee
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    5 years ago

    Don't spend foremost time with minor persons. If there are persons on your existence that always disappoint you, holiday guarantees, stomp in your desires, too judgmental, have specific values and shouldn't have your again for the duration of tricky occasions...that's now not a buddy. To have a buddy, be a buddy. Sometimes in existence as you develop, your peers will both develop or pass. Surround your self with persons who replicate values, ambitions pursuits and culture. When I feel of any of my successes, I am grateful to GOD from whom all benefits waft, and to my loved ones and peers that improve my existence. Over the years my mobilephone ebook has converted on the grounds that I converted for the higher. At first you feel you are going to be by myself, however after a at the same time new persons exhibit up on your existence that make your existence such a lot sweeter and less complicated to undergo. Remember what your elders used to mention, "Birds of a feather flock in combination. If you are an eagle, do not hang out chickens: Chickens Can't Fly! I love the Lord and thank Him for all that he does in my existence, thus, I'm passing this on. Yes I do love Jesus. He is my supply of life and Savior. He continues me functioning every and daily. Without Him, I will probably be not anything. Without Him, I am not anything however with Him I can do all matters. Phil four:thirteen Be Positive - Be Progressive - Take the time to make a confident change in any person's existence. Walk via religion, Not via sight Receive God's benefits Heal the beyond; reside the gift; dream the longer term.

  • Anonymous
    1 decade ago

    become a trio. Why don't you act like them? Or just get some new friends. Be like, I want to hang out with you guys too. You guys are awesome. Don't let it bug you too much either way. You're still very young. Friends come and go.

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  • Anonymous
    1 decade ago

    maybe you should tell her how you feel .that great you would not change to fit in , but you have to talk to her . yes you can find a friend who care about you , and like you because of you. im a girlie girl ,and i have a friend who is gothic with 10 tattoo's and i love her just the way she is , and we been friends for over 15 years. just talk to her and tell her how you feel about all these changes going around you.

  • 1 decade ago

    yes of course your niceness counts for something. Your friend K is going through a phase where she sees something new and wants to hold on to it. But since you said you've known her for a while and you know that it is not her. she will get tired of acting like something she's not. IF she really is your good friend. I would give her some time. and if she comes back to being your friend then she really is your friend. if not i'm sorry.

  • 1 decade ago

    hey listen that really sucks. i kind of did that to my best friends. all of grade school and jr high, we were best friends. but when a new kid moved to our school, i pretty much ditched out on them, i felt bad, but i just didnt have fun with them anymore. i know it probably sucks getting ditched like that, but would do you really wanna hang out with someone who doesnt want to hang out with you? that sucks i know, but thats life, people move on, and youll make new friends. if you and K stay friends, cool. but this stuff has to happen to somebody. if K is a true friend, she'l know what she's missing out on. so try maybe looking for new friends, its hard, but its worth it.

    good luck : )

  • 1 decade ago

    just hang out with both of them but don't change

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