what to do im married but i feel like i need something else in my life that she can't give me ?

Ok, 6 years ago YOU made a choice to marry a woman that had 2 kids because you felt bad about her situation ? B.S. .. u can excuse your actions all u want and make up whatever excuses u need but i doubt sincerely that u married her based on you felt bad that she had 2 kids and was a single mother.. but "even if" that were true.. fact was YOU made the choice, no one forced you, no one held a gun to u and said you HAD to do this.. u made that choice to not only be her husband, but to be a father figure to these 2 children.. and she trusted you , she trusted that you loved her and the kids to be a "family" and now 6 years later your ready to not only hurt her, but to hurt these kids because u've decided u want more out of your life? Because now 6 years later ur admiting that u only married her cause u felt sorry for her? Your going to destroy 3 peoples lives based on your own selfishness of making a choice that u never intended to live up to? They were better off with out u marrying her then you marrying her, giving her the hope of "happily ever after" , and having her children get attached to u, having a "real" family unit again, just to say "Oops ive decided to change my mind"? Your blaming your youth as to your poor decision making.. so whats your excuse to run out on them? because what i can see u havent grown up any.. so ur still being immature.. its all about you.. the marriage was all about u.. u can say it was about them, but it wasnt, it was about what u wanted at the time, what u got out of it.. in your mind u admitted.. u felt bad for her, so your selfishness got the best of u cause all u could think about was how this was going to make you the "hero" in the situation.. and now.. back to the selfishness.. of what "you want".. but this time instead of being the hero, all i get from it is what a coward u are, for you to make a choice that affected 3 other peoples lives, but have no accountability for the choice you made, and for being so selfish to want to run out on them cause you need more.. they were better off with out u.. they deserve a "real man" not a little boy that has no accountability of how he makes choices so easily based on his own selfishness that affects other peoples lives .. so go ahead and leave.. she'll just lose more faith in men, and the kids will learn how normal it is for men to just come and go as they please and have no honor or accountability in promises that they make.. and how just to run like a coward when they dont get what they want..

I don't know how old the two of you are but it seems you entered something too soon. Being in love is different from liking someone or someone you simply care for. Were you in love with her when you married? Did you ever really love her? Some times people get caught up in the moment not realizing what ever after really means. I would talk to her and be completely open and honest. Caring for someone and being married to them for life are two completely different things. You can't live a lie especially realizing this isn't a relationship that is making you happy and in return she deserves respect and the truth. If it's a one way street it will never work.You might not be the right person for her but someone else out there might be. There might be someone out there right for you as well. I wouldn't waste any time discussing this with your spouse. Talk to her and explain your feelings. You did marry her and you did take vows so remember that when talking with her. Be respectful and keep your mind open. It might not be easy. It's a hard thing to accept but easier than living years or decades in a loveless relationship. The best thing I can say to do is to be completely honest but a lot of communication is in order especially considering there are children involved. I hope things work out for the entire family.

The first 12 months of marriage is constantly essentially the most elaborate. There's tons of finding out approximately each and every different and adjusting to the novelty of all of it. On most sensible of that, you each had the further stresses of constructing a apartment in combination. Your lifestyles in combination is missing romance, ardour, amusing and pleasure. Does your husband understand how you think? You're correct in that it takes 2 to make it paintings and matters do not paintings except attempt is installed to it. He perspectives the position of a married character another way that you just do. Maybe it wasn't laziness that was once the aspect whilst You requested him to prepare an afternoon out in combination. It would had been that he does not understand how to do those varieties of matters. Or perhaps no longer. Either method it feels like that harm you. This is whilst you began emotionally distancing your self from him and no longer short of bodily touch. I might tremendously propose you each see a wedding counselor to paintings by way of your emotions and frustrations. If, after that, it does not figure out you'll be able to understand how each and every different feels and can have alleviation in realizing that you just attempted. Good success.

Darlin', if you aren't happy - you aren't. and if you are not in love - you are not. Chances are - she may be feeling this way too.

Do what you can to go. Don't go nasty. Try to be kind and civil to one another. Sometimes a good breakup can heal more than you know. Would you want to have her stay with you if you knew she didn't love you. People through that LOVE word around like it comes easy. It doesn't. When you don't have it - you just don't have it and no amt of $ or searching is going to find it. Truly loving another is a very powerful thing. You know it in your sole. You can care about someone and not be in love with them. Don't be that person. But talk to your partner about it. It will hurt, there is no doubt about that, but talk to that person.

Also know this, as we age in our relationships - the butterflies in the belly go away. That doesn't mean we don't love them anymore. It just is part of maturing into a long term relationship. Don't mistake that for lack of love either.

Don't cheat or lie. Be honest and go from there. If you truly want out, go and don't hurt this person by doing it. It is going to hurt some, but don't dig the wound any deeper than it needs be. Be honest and true.

happiness is a choice in life. it is part of our free will.

you have to learn some spiritual tools to help you be happier, searce google for that.

when you be happy about your self and love yourself you will ove your wife. if you quit on here the situation with repeat with another woman in a very short while.

take your life in your hand, life is not about money or have a right wife or house rather than making a habit og being happy no matter what. it is not an easy job, but it is the best advise you will ever get in life since it is the essense of life.

than you will see it will affect every part of your life relationship, money , success.

good luck

hope I helped

Then, you've done a wrong decision regarding sending yourself to that issue, maybe you are not that ready when you're at that moment, what you have to do right now is to find out what you really want in life don't just take a risk without having your self supporting on it, or else you will mess up again. Find out what really makes you happy!

you should talk to your wife and have some quality time with each other, find out why u got together in the first place. u may even need to go to marriage counseling if that will help or maybe just u see a counselor-find out what u are missing. you don't want to end up leaving her and meet someone else thinking they filled a void only to discover you still have a void.

The posters have given you some good answers. This will become the struggle of your life and there is no easy way to fix it. You cant get all the answers here. You really have to talk to her first. This is going to be very hard if you dont love her anymore. Your life will never be the same. You have to try God and have friends help you.

Sounds like you feel you missed out on something and looking for the grass to be greener on the other side.Better figure out what it is you want and are missing from the relationship before you jump out of this one into another one only too regret leaving and finding out you made a mistake only too miss her and feel unhappy again.

I agree with you guys need to talk it out, and see what can be changed. A relationship wont always be perfect. Another person will make you unhappy as well sooner or later. Remind yourself why you two got married.